the Post-Op Transsexual:
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Some men, and the majority of pre-ops with whom I have spoken, have told me that once my penis is gone, I would be competing with genetic women. But I am not competing with them. I have attributes genetic women don't have that many men find very appealing.
Because I lived as a man and competed in the work-a-day world as an alpha male, I can better understand how important a man's job or career is to him, can better appreciate the need he has to be able to provide for himself and/or his family than can the average woman.
Once, my man called to cancel a date because of a crisis at work. I wasn't angry, I just told him to go fix the problem, because I have been there, I have done that. I have competed the way he has to, as a person of his gender, so I understand how important that is.
Sexual curiosity is also a factor. The men who have contacted me online have all had sex with genetic females. Some of these men have told me that they find it to be extraordinary that I used to have a penis and now have a functional vagina. They found the possibility of having sex with a "new" female to be very attractive.
But a girl needs to be sure any man interested in her knows what she is. I would never date a man who didn't know I was a transsexual, whether pre-op or post-op. First of all, not to tell him is very unfair. Number two, it could be very dangerous.
Before I had the operation, I was functioning in the real world as a woman. I didn't need the operation to "be" a female. As far as the world knows, when I walk down the street as a pre-op TS, they saw a woman. They didn't know any differently.
I mainly had SRS so that my body finally matches my psychological and emotional being. That's very important to me. It gives me a greater sense of peace, it completes my sense of oneness with myself. It brings me great joy and happiness.
The secondary reason for having SRS was to be able to have sex as a woman. I love anal sex but genetic women can have vaginal sex, and I want to be able to have female to male intercourse. To find out that men are still interested in me is a great relief.
Since my SRS, I have found a new sense of confidence, and now I look at the world from a much more calm point of view. SRS boosted confidence in who I am, it helps me interact more confidently with men. I find my confidence boosted two ways. First, because I am more sure of who I am as a woman, I can therefore interact more confidently with men. Secondly, because men are interested in me as a woman, they give a delightful little boost to my femininity.
But having a pussy wouldn't make me more confident on a date since I was perfectly confident in my sexuality anyway. Besides, any man dating me would know in advance whether he's getting a pussy or a penis.
In my case, I find that men are attracted to me as a woman with certain additional attributes. Based on what I have discovered to date, while acknowledging this is not a large, scientific sampling of responses, it appears to me there is no shortage of men interested in post-ops. And their interest appears to go well beyond just the fact that a post-op transsexual now has a pussy.
Relax, girls. Despite rumors to the contrary, the evidence indicates your love life can continue after SRS.
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