TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
April, 2006
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PUT
HIS MIND TO REST
Subject: Article
Date: 4/18/2006 10:44:05 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Thanks for a great article. I am an older male and recently watched some
TS porn on the Internet for the first time. The fact that I found them
attractive disturbed me somewhat, and has done so for some time. I have
always considered myself hetrosexual and the thought of gay sex does not
appeal to me at all. Yet here I was admiring these "girls."
The article has put my mind to rest -- I think I am still what I call
normal.
Many thanks,
--J.T.
FINALLY
FOUND OUR TGIRL WEBSITE
Subject: A Request
Date: 4/17/2006 11:02:27 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Dear Editor:
I found your website very informative. As a straight man curious about
pursuing a fun and healthy relationship with a pretty TS, I am often challenged
with the search. Admittedly, I am a novice at this. Being 25 and wanting
an active relationship with a caring and fun TS is not easy. I don't know
where to begin, or how. Further, most Internet and chat sites offer TS
escorts and I am not interested in them. It has been seven months and
finally I found your website. It's the first that is educational and not
escort oriented.
While I still do not know where to look, I want to thank you for building
the informative site.
Sincerely,
--Al.
WILL
BE LOOKING FOR THAT TGIRL
Subject: Thank You
Date: 4/17/2006 3:42:47 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hello Michael,
I'm male, in my 40s, divorced and work as an engineer. I have always been attracted to the idea of a transgendered person even though I didn't have a clue what that meant or was. I'm not talking sexually, but more on a spiritual/romantic level.
I found your website awhile back, read everything and it all made sense on an intuitive level. I couldn't believe what I had felt was really the way it was!
The question that remained for me was, am I really an admirer and just couldn't admit it to myself, or maybe it was a latent sexual "thing," which didn't make sense because I'm straight. I took your advice and arranged a date with an escort. Don't get me wrong, I have NEVER done this before and won't ever again, but it did confirm the way I felt.
She was a kind, sensitive person. We talked for hours"off the clock" and even went out on a date holding hands and talking. I was not attracted to her remaining male part at all, but instead found her beautiful much like a flower that is beginning to bloom but yet has always been beautiful because she is a flower. She doesn't want to leave the business she is in, which pretty much precludes any type of relationship for me.
Thank you for your website and wish me luck in finding that special person I hope to finally meet and spend my life with.
--Hopeful.
HAPPY EASTER
Subject: The Service you provide.
Date: 4/15/2006 10:34:28 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Have a Happy Easter and thanks for being in our lives!
WOMAN
SEEKS TGIRL FOR RELATIONSHIP
Subject: need info.andhelp please
Date: 4/14/2006 12:05:50 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hi,
I got your name and email addy off of a site on Google about Tgirls. I am a female but I love Tgirls. I only date and have relationships with Tgirls, and I need to know of sites I can go to meet a female and hopefully become friends with, and maybe more. I am serious, I am not a man playing games. I am a real woman who has a hard time finding the type of women I date. It is very hard to meet women of this caliber. I am 32 and I hope that you can help me find what I am looking for, my email is above and I hope whether or not you can help me that you will respond back, thank you.
--Monica.
INDIAN
TGIRL SAYS THANKS
Subject: thanks...
Date: 4/13/2006 10:50:39 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hi,
It was my pleasure to come across this beautiful site, TSGirlfriend, and also your contributions. I really appreciate you for spending your time on this subject. It was great to read your article. I just thought of taking this opportunity to thank you for your nice understanding about us transgendered women.
Before closing, just would like to brief you about me. I am an Indian Tgirl, age 26.
Take care,
--Manisha.
A
TGIRL'S THANK YOU
Subject: Re: Donation for TSG
Date: 4/12/2006 11:41:36 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hi Michael,
Thanks for your thanks (for my donation), but it is you who deserves the
thanks! All of us transsexual women are so lucky to have a place where
we can socialize and be treated with the same respect that any woman wants,
rather than as some fetish object.
It would be great to have a public thank you, not because I want recognition
for my token contribution, but to encourage others to contribute, also.
Others, who like me, spend a lot of time on TSG and who continually meet
interesting and quality people, of all genders.
The success of TSG is the best testimonial to the soundness of your concept
and the effectiveness of your execution. It is one thing to have a good
idea -- and TSG is a great idea -- but it is a much greater achievement
to turn that idea into reality, and you have done that with an effective
system of Room Monitors, a policy that is workable and a procedure to
quickly train people to be RMs.
Thanks again, and have a beer!
Warmly,
--Amanda.
TGIRLS
SHOULD WAIT A BIT BEFORE TELLING
Subject: A regular guy thinks that your views are a bit biased.
Date: 4/12/2006 5:22:30 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hello,
Forgive my spelling, I am Danish speaking.
By coincidence, I came by your website which I liked at lot. It is serious, informative and interesting. I am no admirer or bicurious male, and I do not know much about the realities of life from your and other TGs' perspectives. I guess it isn't fun and sunshine all the time. But anyway, I think that you generalize and judge men rather harshly in your article.
True, there are morons all over the world. To be honest, I've met a lot of women who I think were fools, impolite, dumb, and who had a bad attitude. My ex-wife cheated on me and tried to rob me blind in the process when we split up.
Anyway, my personal expriences don't make me rationalize that all women would be like that. I've just been unlucky, nothing more and nothing less, and have to be more careful.
Maybe the situation for a fully transsexual woman is more difficult. To be honest, if I, by coincidence, met a post-op Tgirl, I don't think that I would notice that she once had been a man. How could I, if she behaved, looked and felt like a woman? Then she is, in my perspective, a woman like every other woman I've met.
Who I am I to tell her she is not? Would I become impolite if I found out? No. Would I become impolite if I met a normal Tgirl? No. Why? Because I guess that we do not always decide what kind of sexuality we might have. Not all males are sexist, male chauvinist bozos. I guess if I met a Tgirl in a bar or whatever and she started talking to me, I would be polite if she were the same. Why shouldn't I? If people are nice to me, I am the same to them.
I guess at lot of other regular guys would see it the same way. Maybe some of the girls go to directly to the subject. If it happened to me, I would be insecure on the following grounds:
1. I dont know much about the subject and definitions, what does it really mean?
2. You're having a drink and chatting up a woman who suddenly tells you she was once a man. Gosh, jeez, uh-oh. Well, that's.... Ummm, see you later.
I guess that I would accept it IF we had met a couple of times for a drink and socialized, and she tells me in a quiet moment. Why? Because I have experienced her personality and behavior. If she behaves, acts and look as a woman, she will still be one in my eyes after she tells me. Maybe a lot of other regular guys would see it the same way. Anyway, I guess the situation never will arise, maybe because there aren't any Tgirls in Denmark. Never seen one.
Remember, not all guys are fools with prejudices, maybe your friends should try clubbing at some other places. Good luck.
--A male Dane in Greenland.
HOW
HARD IT MUST HAVE BEEN FOR TGIRLS BEFORE TSG
Subject: Your article on TSGirlfriend history
Date: 4/10/2006 5:38:18 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Michael,
What a wonderful article. I can only imagine how difficult online life was for the women and the men sincerely interested in meeting them before you put this together. I can honestly say I have never returned to any other dating chatroom due to the jerks and bots. And I never knew if I was talking to an escort or a guy pretending to be a TG. It really is the only site where I know who is there and I've been very careful to go slow and let them know who I am. Seems to be working for me since a few of the women have PM'd me and had a sincere conversation (they say I seem like a really nice guy! Wow is that a difference from AOL!) Anyway, thanks for your diligent work, you and the old timers should be very proud of your work.
--Mike <mike37neworleans>.
ARTICLE
ON TGIRLS IS ACCURATE
Subject: Re: How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual Woman
Date: 4/9/2006 3:12:10 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hello
Michael:
Your treatise on the Tgirl was unusually accurate. I find that my dearest
desire is to be fully accepted as a GG by both genders. It is far more
than just a societal role. It is a desired perspective from which to live
on all levels of being. The foundation for any relationship is based upon
certainty. It seems to me that the more intimate the relationship, the
more that it becomes a package deal. I am not alluding just to sexual
intimacy. Feeling desireable, appreciated, valued, respected, and having
someone make you feel good about yourself.
These are, in my opinion, not only the constructs of love, but of any caring relationship. My interest in Tgirls comes, to some extent, from the fact that I am a variation of intersexed. I like GG's, I am interested in males, as a woman. I know a number of Tgirls and perhaps it is there that I will find the one who takes my heart. To find one who knows your heart, that is what I seek. What resides between the legs pales to insignificance. It seems more and more that perhaps, it takes one to know one. That seems sadly limiting with over six billion souls on this earth. And so I, as so many, query, "Where is the one who will accept all that is me and treat me as an equal?"
Thank you for your perspective, and for promulgating it.
--I.S.
MILITARY
MAN SEEKS NEW TGIRL
Subject: Looking for someone special.....
Date: 4/9/2006 12:53:27 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Hello,
I am currently in a marriage with a post-op woman and we are getting a divorce. I feel she used me to get her surgery and then has moved on. That's neither here nor there. Sorry for that! But the connection we had was unreal. When we met, she was still genetically male and that intrigued me. I didn't think I could have those kinds of feelings for another human being, but I did! And now it's over and I would like to see if I could find that again.
The only thing I ask this time is to be able to choose the women that I may fall in love with this time. And my request isn't very hard to match. Someone small but athletic with blonde hair and blue eyes. The only thing is that she has to be a full time TS because of my job, and she also has to be very convincing as far as looks are concerned! In my line of work I cannot afford to be found out. And a non-smoker! My soon-to-be ex-wife picked up the habit of smoking after her surgery and I can't stand it!
I am a staight man and enjoy the company of an attractive and outgoing woman who is not afraid to pack a bag and disappear for a weekend without an inkling of what is going to happen. I am a very spur-of-the-moment kind of guy and I would like that in my future partner! If you think you can help I will welcome any information you can give me.
--Ruben, US Military, Korea.
TRANSVESTITES
ARE GIRLS TOO
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 4/9/2006 10:56:36 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Dear Editor.
I strongly disagree with you about the transgender people you call transvestites. Tgirls come in many shapes and forms.We are not all post-op or pre-op. Some are in a limbo for many reasons Marriage, business, friends, relatives, etc.
Please be kind to us. We are woman deep inside, too and want the same things as your pre-op Tgirls. Perhaps someone can explain it better than I . Take a closer look at some of your statements.
--Barbara S.
THINKING
ABOUT A TGIRL
Subject: ur site on internet reg shemales
Date: 4/5/2006 4:33:49 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I have read the article on the above subject in detail. Let me introduce myself first. I'm a 23-year-old normal female married with no kids. My husband is not my type as he is rough and tough. I like females, but to be frank I don't like them physically either. I want to be held by a man who is soft yet tough with all the characteristics of a man.
It's
so difficult to explain, but in India we are always polite and obedient
and dutiful wives. Financiallly, I'm extremely well to do but my physical
relationship is bad. In fact, I don't llike males at all now. Please advise,
should I enter your chatroom and make new friends? Waiting for your answer.
--Priya.
SO
MANY COOL TGIRLS
Subject: Geez
Date: 4/2/2006 7:43:49 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I'm in love. So many cool women. Your site's great . AWESOME! Thanks .
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