TGirls Letters - TGirl feedback to us

TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

April, 2009

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND THE RIGHT TGIRL?
Subject: Problem.
Date: 4/16/2009 3:22:53 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Thank you, I hope that I have finally found someone that knows what I am talking about.

Me, a 37-year-old male living in Montreal, Canada, with a great passion for Tgirls. Here my problem: I'm trying to find a Tgirl that wants a real life partner. Here is what I find or what I am not looking for, it's mostly trannies that want to play the whore, sex-sex-sex, etc. There is way more in life then just that. OK, I like sex, and I like a woman with a penis, is that so wrong, and why is it so hard to find?

Do I really need to sift trough all the fake ones to find the real ones? I just want to find a partner that is happy with herself and wants a man to be with. I'm really starting to think that I am some kind of a freak and that I will never find what I am looking for.

Please help me. I just don't know anymore. What I do know is that I am not a freak, but please send me in the right direction.

A big thank you for being here.

--Nico.

ARE GG'S WELCOME IN THE TGIRL CHATROOM?
Subject: Are bio women welcome here?
Date: 4/11/2009 12:50:56 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Are any pre-op transwomen into other woman? I ask this as a bisexual woman who has been interested in dating one. I've just found this site and read some of the articles and everything seems to be directed to men looking to date M2Fs. Is what I am looking for unheard of? I have heard of instances where transsexuals go post-op and then end up with the same sex.

I don't want to join the site if it's not welcome. I thought I would join the chat and learn more about the people here but in the dos and don'ts it said to assume all women were TS. Kinda not lending to the possibility that a biological girl might want a transgirlfriend. I've tried on other sites but got a lot of straight cross dressers that looked like John Lithgow in drag. No breasts, hair everywhere and a deep voice with no interest in anything other than wearing ladies clothing.

I met one woman was interested as she identified as bi and was months away from her surgery, kinda wanted a last day of glory with you-know-what. But our location made it difficult to meet. Your site seems to be less trollish and more serious about getting people together than some others out there.

Maybe this is just a fetish for me. I'm wondering if some just like to get the top done and keep the business going on down below. Or if that's just a stage to be in while waiting for the funds to become available to complete the transition. And if they keep it, does it function while on hormones?

Perhaps you could also do an article about it because sometimes there are incidents where same-sex relationships do form after sexual reassignment surgery occurs. A M2F then becomes a lesbian, so does it happen?

Sorry if anything was offensive, I figured better to go this way then offend actual members in the chatrom and get banned.

--Tia.

IT'S AN INSULT
Subject: You should know
Date: 4/10/2009 4:34:30 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

You should know....

A pre-op transsexual should be mature enough to know they are making the right decision. And not act like a child. A man can handle most things, but he cannot handle an adult acting like a child.

A pre-op transsexual cannot train a man like a dog (thats a disgrace, and it's a insult to a person like myself.)

--Reece.

TGIRLS, DON'T REJECT THE BI GUY
Subject: re: How to date a pre-op transsexual.
Date: 4/8/2009 4:10:13 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I am a man that is beginning to get involved with a pre-op TS, and I found your article very interesting. There is, however, one point that I would take issue with. I think that you may be oversimplifying some of the issues regarding men who are attracted to TS girls, namely those men who take pleasure in a woman with a penis.

This is my own situation, and I've been exploring my own sexuality to try to find what fulfills me. There are men, like myself, who enjoy fellatio and receiving anal sex. Knowing this, of course, I considered the possibility that I might be gay or bisexual. But after being with a couple gay and bi men, it was very clear to me that while I took pleasure in the sex, I simply and clearly am not attracted to men as such. Maleness is in no way appealing to me. I have no doubt that I am attracted to femininity.

So the possibility of having a meaningful partner that is both feminine and equipped to meet my erotic desires has considerable appeal. And the truth is that I've talked with several TS girls that do enjoy being "versatile" (to different degrees, of course). The mistake, I think, lies in the conflation of sexual activities with sexuality. Because a man enjoys fellatio and anal does not thereby make him gay or bi. It is the personality and attitudes to which one is attracted that determine sexuality, as you wrote in the article (and there was much that I agreed with).

There are most certainly feminine attitudes that a TS has which a GG lacks and which appeal to me as a straight man. So the last thing I would say is that a TS shouldn't be too quick to dismiss a guy who can appreciate her pre-op body as it is, as it doesn't automatically mean he isn't genuine and serious about his attraction to her as a woman and person.

Thanks.

--Derrick.

TGIRL'S HOPE BURNS ANEW
Subject: Hi again.
Date: 4/7/2009 2:31:30 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I decided to right to you again because I have somethig to say and I need to get it off my chest. I just found your page and I am new to it, but I didn't think a page like this existed on the Net, and I am grateful for it. This is a page where I could possibly find what I need -- someone serious and nice -- not just interested in animalistic sex. Hopefully, a serious relationship based on love, friendship and understanding.

I am sick of the game players. Well, my life hasn't been easy. I faced my transsexuality alone because my family abandoned me, and also because I live in a country where we are treated as subhuman, even by the doctors. But I now dream again that things could somehow be better, thanks to you. I thank you very much for this, you gave me new hope.

Sincerely,

--Alexandra.

INSIGHTFUL
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 4/5/2009 3:05:52 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Re: The MTF Transsexual: Growth as a Woman article.

Thank you for this! This was such an insightful piece and I just wanted to tell you! I am loving your site.

--Daniel.

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