TGirls Letters - TGirl feedback to us

TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

April, 2010

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

HE WOULD DATE A TGIRL
Subject: Greetings from Albuquerque.
Date: 4/29/2010 3:26:51 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

I read your article about post-op MTFs. I'm a 50-year-old divorced man. I really related to your observation that men think more logically. I'm not homophobic but "straight" in my sexual orientation. I was raised by a single parent, my father, who provided a good home.

However, while growing up, my younger brother and I did not have any female interaction. I feel this may be why I, and to a lesser extent my brother, have not been able to hold onto a relationship with the opposite sex.

In all, I have become interested and even attracted to transgendered women. I would even date them.

Best regards,

--Stephen.

TO TELL OR NOT? A QUESTION OF RIGHT OR WRONG
Subject: When, Why & How to Tell Him That You're a Transsexual.
Date: 4/29/2010 6:23:01 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi,

I am a MTF pre-op transsexual woman living full time as a woman for three years. I have had this discussion with a number of my post-op friends in the last few years and sometimes I'm even told I have no right to express an opinion since I am pre-op, but I don't let that silence me.

I am a firm believer that there are some things that are clearly right and some clearly wrong, and there should be no need for debate. In the case of whether a transsexual woman should reveal her history to a man prior to becoming intimately involved, the answer is clearly YES. If she has any character and is not totally self absorbed, she must be open and honest about her route to womanhood if there is a real possibility of a relationship, even if it is a one-night fling.

I think the reasons are clear without discussion, but in case some folks just arrived on this planet, I will briefly mention some of the more obvious.

Despite the fact that we ourselves and many others view us as women, there are some men who will never under any condition accept us as women and will always think of us as male with surgical and hormonal modifications. It is a free country and everyone has a right to their own thoughts, feeling and points of view.

If a man thinking this way were to find out by whatever means that he had been sexually intimate with a post-op MTF transsexual woman, the reaction could well be severe anger and violence, possibly resulting in your being seriously injured or even killed. Another possibility is that he feels he has unwittingly engaged in what he truly and firmly believes to be a homosexual experience and thus his mental health has been damaged. This could possibly result in suicide, or at least a lot of therapy.

Obviously, I support a person's right to full knowledge of the gender history of a potential sexual partner, but otherwise our past is a private matter.

I have a former post-op friend who I believe is willing to justify behaviors and actions that are clearly selfish and without regard to her potential partners because it is what she wants, and for some reason feels she deserves. I found that there was too large a difference in our views of right and wrong for me to quietly accept, so therefore our friendship is on a long-term sabbatical.

I do truly hope she will mature soon and recognize the difference between right and wrong.

Sincerely,

--Darcy.

SURPRISE! THE PERSONAL AD SHE FORGOT ABOUT
Subject: My personal ad listing.
Date: 4/27/2010 12:37:30 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi Michael,

Thank you for taking the time to sending me this notice though I didn't remember having my email address listed there. But yes, please, let me continue to be on that list. I have never been contacted except for this notice to even remind me that my name appears somewhere on such a list.

Yesterday, I came to the room as you replying to emails you had received. I could see the sheer exhaustion you must feel at times in your chat posts. It's when I walked over behind you (in the chat room) to soothe and rub your aching shoulders to rub away some of the stress you feel.

I am surprised that some girl hasn't snatched you up. Of course, it has to be an agreeable snatch and that is where the problem may exist. I am surprised I am taking the time to write my ramblings, but it is my last day off before beginning my eight-day work tour. And all I have to do tonight is get ready for choir practice at 7pm.

It feels great to be out there singing again even if my work schedule only allows me to make every practice but miss every other Sunday.

Thank you, God bless, hugs and rainbows,

--Sarah Rose.

IN A QUANDRY OVER THE QUAGMIRE
Subject: Hi.
Date: 4/22/2010 3:17:47 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi.

I just recently came across your site and I have to admit I'm a little nervous about trying. Not because of stereotypes or anything like that, but because of my living situation. I know that I want to be in a relationship, but because of what's going on in my life right now, I don't know how fair it would be to the person I'm trying to be with to be brought into it suddenly.

You see, I'm in the military and my unit was deployed at the start of the year and I'm currently in Iraq and we're not scheduled to return to the States until late December, or maybe even early January. I just recently found out that if we so desire, we have the choice to extend our deployment even longer than that and I'm kind of confused about what I should do.

Do I try and start a relationship that just consists of emails and chats? Or do I wait until my deployment is over? I would like some helpful advice, if you can offer any.

--Ray.

THE POWER OF MISS DANIELLE'S WRITING
Subject: A thanks to Miss Danielle A.
Date: 4/25/2010 6:31:54 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Dear Miss Danielle A.,

I couldn't stop myself from emailing you after I read your article titled, "What a TS Woman Wants" by Miss Danielle A. I just wanna say it's an amazing article, an eye opener. It gave me a few smiles, and few tears as well.

As a genetics student, I knew about other things about TS women, but today I have learnt their emotional aspect as well. This article is written in such an awesome way that I could feel that emotion, that happiness, that pain, that demand for equality, for changing guys' perceptions, and lot of things.

If you are Miss Danielle A., ma'am, with no flirting, I am telling you that I just became fan of your writing talent, and ma'am, this respect I have for transsexual women will grow stronger. I am confident about that.

Thanks for the article.

--Akash S.

HE'S NOT A TGIRL ADMIRER
Subject: Hey.
Date: 4/15/2010 7:27:56 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

I hope it will be a wonderful time of day when this mail reaches you, I was very happy when on my long and desperate search for a TS girl, I came across your info and realized that you are giving people like me a wonderful opportunity to meet and be with beautiful TS girls.

I have come to terms with my sexuality and have decided that I want to be with a Tgirl, it is something that I have thought about and have come to the decision. I am not a, admirer of Tgirls because I think an "admirer" is just a guy who wants to be with one of these girls just to try something different.

I have being on the search for a Tgirl for a very long time but it seems extremely hard to meet one, so I hope that this is my time to give some love to one.

--J.V.

THANKS FOR THE TGIRL HELP
Subject: TS dating.
Date: 4/14/2010 2:44:01 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Thank you for the valuable information in your editorial. I am new to this scene but very impressed at the beauty of some of the girls. I had a sheltered upbringing and never knew anything about TS/TG/TVs until I met one. I hung out with her for a year and a half and actually grew to love her. She went back to Denver and now I am looking for another companion. Your information helped me out a lot.

--Ralph.

TGIRL ASKS: HOW DOES IT FEEL?
Subject: The TS relationships.
Date: 4/7/2010 6:24:20 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hey...

My name is Selina and I live in Denmark, a student. I'm 23 and I'm a straight girl who was born a boy. I looked for a site and saw a page about men seeking relationships with girls who were born different. I just want to know how it feels for you to be someone like me?

And perhaps help me to find some men to talk to, perhaps to date later on if interested.

I would really appreciate it if I could get you to be more specific. I think it's interesting. And by the way, age is no problem to me. So I won't think of you as scum.

I'm a charming young girl, a positive, educated, adventurous, kind girl who happens to be interested in gentlemen with dignity.

Hope to hear from you.

Sincerely,

--Selina M.

THANKS FOR THE TGIRL ADVICE
Subject: Thanks.
Date: 4/4/2010 3:36:15 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
From: Deleted
To: TSGirlfriend4me@aol.com

I'm writing to thank you for the Tgirl online advice, it was an eye opener. It really taught me how to behave in my approach with TS women, and the sexual advice was even better. I'm a straight male interested in a beautiful and loving TS woman (no penis), and that article helped me understand the experience and to feel more comfortable with it. You're a great cupid for us all, thanks again.

--Fred.

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