TGirls Letters - TGirl feedback to us

TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

August, 2005

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

BOYFRIEND'S INTERESTED IN TGIRLS
Subject: Question on boyfriend
Date: 8/31/2005 4:37:01 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I am researching this topic to the best of my ability and was wondering if you could take some time to answer a question for me. If so, please read on. I am a female in a committed relationship. I discovered my boyfriend looking at porngraphic pictures of male-to-female transgender individuals. Not just a little, but literally hundreds of pictures and only transsexuals, nothing else.

In addition to this I discovered he had emailed a M-to-F individual during a brief period when we split up just introducing himself to her and he had sent a picture. He also had his ex use a strap-on on him as well as finger him and he has a fascination with anal sex. The porn was the last straw. I accussed him of being bisexual or at least wanting to experiment with a transgender individual. Now he wants to work things out and says that the majority of men who look at that stuff are heterosexual. I just find that hard to believe but he says I am close minded and judgmental. If you could offer any insight into this or forward this email to someone who could I would be appreciative. I have been so stressed over this.

Respectfully,

--Lisa.

MEETING A NICE POST-OP TGIRL
Subject: Your site
Date: 8/30/2005 9:01:16 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

My name is Ira. I think you have the only legitimate site on the Internet for pre- and post-operative TS's who are seeking a permanent relationship. I could be wrong, but I think I am right. My TS friend knows that I am computer illiterate. I have met girls from Amanda Lear to the swetest girls in Chicago and San Francisco but I live in Reno and even the girl who helped me on the computer left for L.A. because she was so lonely here, outside of the computer.

I am fairly well educated, but I am terrible at the computer. I do not even know how to enter a chatroom. I just want to meet a nice person, preferably a post-op and get married.

We lived in the 60's and you just met girls. Is there any way you could help me by saying there is a nice fellow in Reno who is very serious about meeting a TS girl for a lifetime relationship? I studied with the late Harry Benjamin and was in this scene before every guy today got into it. Many of these younger men are not serious about TS's. They have girlfriends, are curious, and want to have a fling. Peope are entitled to that. They cannot meet girls as I could in the days before AIDS.

I just would like you to tell me what you suggest because I will always be computer illiterate. The only thing I can do is email. Thank yopu very much for your consideration.

--Ira.

TGIRL COMMENTS ON ADVICE QUERY
Subject: Re: Dating advice to men: Go Slowly
Date: 8/26/2005 8:04:03 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I just recently discovered this site, and was reading through the emails and found one from July 3, 2003, on the TS Dating Advisor page. The subject line was "Men," and I am taking issue with part of the second paragraph. It reads as follows:

"I'm up front with what I'm looking for,and explain in depth that I must feel chemistry, as they do, for it to move forward. I never call them, and I don't email them except to answer theirs."

The added emphasis is mine. By only responding to them, and never initiating contact, the men trying to get into a relationship with her are being made to feel that they aren't worth much of her time or effort. Having been the one in a couple of extremely short relationships who had to do all the planning and initiating, I can tell you that, after a while, it becomes very tiresome.

And as to the issue of the guys wanting her to stay out of chat, I'll have to split the difference here. I'm not saying stay out, I mean you do have friends there, but if he's trying to get a relationship going, cut it back some. Otherwise, he's going to feel like you are just playing with him. I know I would.

--GDN.

WHAT IT IS ABOUT TGIRLS
Subject: Great Article
Date: 8/24/2005 2:52:44 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I really enjoyed your article. I have been with an escort and she was nice and all, very nice!! I did really want to ask her out on a date, but didn't thinking I would look like a fool for asking. I enjoyed reading what your article had to say on that matter and in reading it also have realized why I am attracted to TS's. It is the femininity.

Thanks.

--From a Man.

KUDOS
Subject: Very Informative.
Date: 8/19/2005 1:35:12 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Thank you for the time taken to write these articles. Very informative and helpful.

Thanks.

--Jay.

TGIRL RELATIONS
Subject: TS Relations
Date: 8/3/2005 4:05:37 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I am a 45-year-old male and I am in a relationship with a pre-op TS. I've never thought of her in any gender but female at any given moment. She smells, looks, tastes and IS female...beyond any doubt in my mind and my senses. As stated in the article...it's just an issue of plumbing.

When I go down on her, it's with the understanding that I'm going down on a woman and I treat it that way...once again...the plumbing is merely out of synch and has to be treated as though it is post-op or GG to begin with. Just a bit different in shape. She loves to be held and pampered and chased and called pet names and taken to the beach and cuddled and given chocolate.

She's allergic to the flowers but accepts the roses with grace and gratitude for my sake. She's more woman than many of my girlfriends or my first wife was. And take this from a man who is neither bi nor gay, it's wonderful to be loved no matter what the plumbing issue is.

Thank you for reading this and I hope it helps to clear up any doubts about trying out a wonderful resource for love and companionship that is virturally untapped in the U.S.

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