TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
December, 2005
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TGIRL
REENTERS DATING POOL AFTER SRS
Subject: Loved your article on being a post-op and continued interest
Date: 12/27/2005 3:26:50 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I went
to your site and love all the info. I am a post-op TS and am slowly reentering
the dating world. Funny, I didnt think about the fact that I would have
challenges, I never did before, I just let people know before I met them,
I guess it gave me a sense of being in the driver's seat. I now find that
I am actually more shy or stand-offish when it comes to serious dating.
I also did not think of using the Web as I had the same ideas that men
who like TS's wouldnt look for post-ops.
Thanks for your site and info, I may step back into the dating pool now.
--Katherine.
A
GENTLEMAN TO TGIRLS
Subject: thank you
Date: 12/26/2005 10:26:14 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Thank
you for clearing up a few things. I am a 41-year-old man who finds Tgirls
extremely attractive.You are right, Tgirls work harder to be attractive,
to be ladies.
Now I know that I should be a gentlemen to such a lady.
Thanks!
SEEKING
TGIRL IN MICHIGAN
Subject: Hi There ! I was wondering if you could be of some help/advice?
Date: 12/26/2005 2:12:32 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com
HiI have recently been relocated here from LA, and I miss all my TS friends. :(
I was wondering if you knew of, or could help advise me, on where to meet beautiful TS women?
And am finding it VERY difficult to find any here in Michigan. Are there many here? Do you have any suggestions as to where would be the best place to meet them? (Both in person or on the Web, is there a "match.com" equivalent?)
All I have been able to find So far is the ads in the back of the Metro-Times. And I am not looking for an escort. I would like to find a great friend, that if the chemistry was there, could move into something more.
Any help or information you could share with me would be most appreciated!
Thank you for your time.
Happy Holidaze!
--Richard (native SoCal boy freezing here in Michigan.)
STRAIGHT
MAN WANTS A TGIRL
Subject: I Commend You
Date: 12/26/2005 12:57:14 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I just completed browsing your website. I wanted to write and say that
I commend you on the contents. If everyone would not only read what you
have written, but comprehend the contents of your website, society would
not have their labels attached to the TS's in the world, and the straight
men who are now seeking a relationship with them.
I feel that I am the gentleman that TS's look for in a man, as I am of the dying breed of a man that still opens doors for a woman, pulls her chair out at the table, makes sure that she walks on my side away from the road when we on a sidewalk, etc. I even do this for women that I am not engaged in a relationship with and do it out of respect for her as a woman. That is the way that I was raised by my parents, so I do not need to be "taught" that by a TS.
I am seeking a relationship with a TS now, because I feel that nowdays, GG's find this kind of behavior of a man to be ancient, corny, and to some an insult because of women's lib and all that. I am wanting to find a TS woman who might appreciate these qualities and gestures of respect instead of ridicule that most GG women return when provided these gestures. I have always said to myself, "Would you rather me beat you to get respect or something?" That would never happen. I live by the old saying, "To earn a person's respect, you must first give respect." If GG's nowdays do not return respect when given respect, it makes a man feel unappreciated.
I have been attracted to a TS before, but was timid in pursuing a relationship because of society's teachings and pressure, however, I did give her a very passionate kiss once. She moved to another state, but we remain very good friends. This is why I have decided to go full steam ahead in trying to develop a relationship with a TS now, without hesitation. I just feel that when a man is good to them, they appreciate those little things far more than a GG. I will soon find out.
Again, thank you for
the articles on your website. I wish that everyone in society would read
and comprehed what is written there. I also wish that I can find a good
woman from your website or elsewhere. If so, you might hear from me again
to write a success story for your website.
Hehe!
Again, I commend and applaud you on you writings and website. Thank you!
--T.T.
TGIRL
LONGS FOR ROMANCE
Subject: Romance Online
Date: 12/26/2005 12:27:04 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Thanks for including the article, Romance Online. I am very new to all
this. I came out three years ago. I have been living fulltime for two
years. I have visited the chat group a few times, but really wonder what
I've gotten into -- I feel much more comfortable emailing which allows
for more thought and expression. I very much long for a relationship with
a man (I do not consider myself a homosexual, but a pre-op transsexual),
and, as I said, am thankful for the advice in the above article. I must
admit to being envious of couples I see in gay or lesbian bars (which
I infrequently visit); I long to be held and loved -- not sexually, but
romantically. I would just like to go out to dinner and a movie. This
probably sounds a little crazy, but it is how I feel inside.
Again, thanks for the article.
--Gillian.
HOW
TO MEET A NICE TGIRL?
Subject: How do you meet a TS girl?
Date: 12/19/2005 5:22:51 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I am in Missouri and just ran across your website. I am 31, divorced, and a good-looking guy. Meeting a pre/post op TS is of interest to me, and not just for "experimentation."
My ex-wife was a nude model. During one of her photoshoots, about four years ago, we had the opportunity to befriend a pre-op TS. She was a great person overall. Her demeanor was similar to mine and we had several things in common, one of which was that we both thought the opposite sex was only looking to get laid.
Anyway, my question is this: How would I go about meeting a TS? I've never even thought of it until just now.
Thanks in advance.
--John.
HIV & POST-OP TGIRLS
Subject: Question re risks of catching HIV
Date: 12/16/2005 11:50:12 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: ribster_2000@yahoo.co.uk
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Firstly, may I say that I think your website is wonderful, it is compassionate
informative and thoroughly encouraging towards those who have been unfortunate
to have been born in the wrong gender of body and who have had the courage
to make the necessary but confronting changes to their lives in order
to readjust the balance so they can feel complete again.
I have a question -- it is of a techincal/scientific/sexual nature:
Because of another (not very encouraging!) website that stated that post-op MTF transsexuals are in a high-risk category of catching and passing on HIV (and I'm not convinced I agree with that statement), do you not think that if ONLY oral sex was carried out, mutually, that actually, there would be even LESS risk of HIV being transmitted because in most cases, from what I have read, from other sites on the Net, there is not much chance of natural post-SRS vaginal lubrication fluids being particularly prevalent at all in a post-op MTF TS, therefore the "vehicle" as it were for HIV would be much less feasible than if a man gave oral sex to a GG?
I really welcome your thoughts on this as I have an interest in someone who is a truly stunning, feminine (beyond ANYTHING I have ever encountered with previous GG experiences!) and heart-breakingly beautiful post-op TS and I need to be informed about any such risks by someone who clearly is far more clued-up about the whole subject than other so-called authorities that I have come across, before I take matters further. I hasten to add that with penetrative (vaginal only) sex, a condom would always be used!
I want to be informed about this, and I feel given your excellent knowledge, in the way that you answer other questions, that you may be able to shed some light on this matter.
I hope that you will view this as a genuine question from someebody who wants to be as informed as one possibly can be (i.e. me!!) and who wants to know everything I possibly can before I pursue matters further.
Thanks for you time in reading this email.
--Ty.
TOM'S
NOT DEAD AFTER ALL
Subject: Susan (Tom's sister)
Date: 12/12/2005 8:56:31 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
Dear Michael,
I am Susan, the sister of the chatter you have named Tom (or Tom_Camo
I have learned). This is going to be the hardest thing I have ever written.
It won't be the hardest thing I will ever do though. I owe you and your
whole chat room an apology for what I have done. First, please allow me
to explain what happened and why.
As you may remember, at this time last year Tom left for Iraq and his third tour there. He came home for treatment for malaria in late April, and then went back at the end of May. While he was gone the second time, he asked me to take care of some things for him. He trusted me with something of great importance to him, and I felt good about the trust he gave me. I had stopped drinking for six months by then, and he was rewarding me. Well, after he was gone, I slipped and started drinking again. During that time, I got curious about what all he was doing with his computer so I started messing with it and discovered that he was visiting your site.
So after visiting your chat room pretending I was Tom, I discovered that he had several of the girls who were very fond of him. Since I was drinking, I wasn't thinking right, so I decided that Mom could not live with Tom being gay too (I am a lesbian.) So I thought I would do Mom and the whole family a great big favor by inventing that he had liver cancer (I had seen a story on TV about it) because I figured that if I killed him off he couldn't come back there and put the family through it all. I then posed, under a fake email address, as his friend Eric (I know him and their stories from hearing them all the time).
I told you, pretending to be Eric, that Tom had died from surgery. He never had cancer, never was discharged, and of course is not dead. I know you hate me for this, and I hate myself. I am being treated in a rehab now, and I am sure once I tell him about this that he will hate me too. The reason I come forward is that this last week the one good thing that came of this is that a guy Tom served with named Sam (he visits your site too) met our family at my parent's house. That brought it all home to me. I really started to feel bad about this when I realized that your chatroom wasn't a hot chat kind of place, but a really nice place where people are protected and I now understand why Tom liked it there.
And so I guess I have ruined that place for you, for Tom, and for the family's new friend from there, Sam. At this family meeting with Sam, he told stories we hadn't heard, asked lots of questions about Tom, and then asked if he could visit the grave, and of course my parents didn't know what he was talking about. I quickly changed the subject and took Sam aside on Saturday night and told him what happened and it really shook him up. I know he hates me but he didn't say anything bad at all. I know he looks forward to meeting Tom, but I feel like I've ruined a lot for a lot of people and that Tom will pay the price for it.
I am very sorry. I knew what I was doing, I knew it was wrong, but I did not realize how bad it all was. I thought it was just another chat site and that no one really meant anything to each other, but I was proved wrong and I knew when I saw how sad people were that I had made a terrible mistake. But by then it was made and I didn't know what to do about it.
Tom is supposed to fly in tomorrow (Tuesday). We will greet him and love him like he deserves. Before he gets a chance to visit your site, I will try to tell him about everything but I am afraid I will hurt him and I never wanted to hurt anyone. This will be the hardest thing I will ever do. Please hate me if you have to, but please welcome him back when he returns. If he feels he is able to. I did not keep his email address up like I was supposed to, so your email address for him is expired. If you or any of your chatters have any comments for me, please put Susan in the subject line. I will hate to read what I have coming to me, but I deserve it all.
If anyone
wants to say anything to him -- even about me -- please put Tom in the
subject line. I have no idea really of how hard this may be for you all,
but I hope for his sake and the friends he has, that everyone will blame
me and not let it reflect on him at all.
My deepest regrets,
--Susan.
PS: I have learned, at great expense to all of you, a great lesson. I
am sorry.
LIKES
TGIRL DATING ARTICLE
Subject: I like the article
Date: 12/12/2005 8:00:47 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
It put
alot of things into the light for me, and I still believe that one of
the best gifts from God was the creation of the TS, she can be your best
friend or the best lover you could ever hope for.
Take care,
-- M.G.
GORGEOUS
BRAZILIAN TGIRLS
Subject: I'm an admirer:
Date: 12/8/2005 9:10:29 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I am great admirer of the TS community. It's very hard to approach a TS
and introduce myself to them. I just admire how these beautiful women
are men, especially the Brazilians. They are real gorgeous and very beautiful.
I can't tell if they are the real ones or are they men. About eight years
ago I had a relationship with a TS and it was wonderful. I was with her
for three years and then we just lost interest in each other. I treated
her like a queen. We went out to have dinners, go shopping for her clothes,
wigs, makeup and other things. Right now, I'm looking to hook up with
the right TS to be a girlfriend, maybe more in the future. So if you have
any suggestion, please give me a reply on the email I'm sending to you.
Sincerely yours,
--Edwin.
It would be a really good idea to not refer to any TS as a man. A TS is not a guy in a dress.
WHATEVER
HAPPENED TO ROMANCE?
Subject: thank you for so much
Date: 12/7/2005 4:45:45 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com
I have just been reading your articles and I can never thank you enough
for them. I have been divorced for many years and so many times I have
been asked, "Why don't you get married again?" I guess over
the years I have used many different answers to that question, but the
plain truth is, I just have not met a real lady yet.
From your articles and others I have read, and have had the chance to chat for a brief time with a delightful TS recently, I know now that I have been looking in the wrong place. My experiences over the years with GG's is so much like what you said in your article, they are overbearing, self-centered and have no time to see me for what I am, just an everyday nice guy.
I have
lived alone so long because frankly I don't want someone to run my life,
I want someone to share my life with. I want a tender caring and sweet
lady, someone that will like a little kiss just because it feels right,
I want a real woman, caring kind and passionate. The plumbing issue? Actually,
I am more worried about my own plumbing then hers. It just seems like
GG's are more concerned with how big a guy is then how he uses what he
has. That, and I think a lot of GG's figure all men want is a quick fuck
and good enough.
Whatever happened to romance and teasing and playing and just plain holding
some one close at night and felling needed? For me at my age, children
aren't an issue. Matter of fact, I really don't want to deal with children
anymore. I just married off my only son so, hey, I am looking forward
to spoiling my grandkids.
I do have fears and concerns, not for myself but for her. I realize that their lives have been hard and God forbid I do anything to make it any harder. That and I live in a remote rural area, not a lot to do here, and can I find someone that would want to move to an out-of-the-way place? I know the best thing is to just jump on in and start looking. I agree, I think the best place to start is in your chatroom.
Once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to do such a great set of articles and to get them out here for us to see and read. God bless you.
--Mark.
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