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TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

February, 2005

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

MANY TGIRLS HAVE SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES?
Subject: articles
Date: 2/16/2005 1:03:33 P.M. Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I enjoyed your articles, I'm 33 and a full-time writer and journalist . It's tough to find the right women for a relationship. Sex and one-night stuff is pretty easy for me but finding something more long term is hard. Seems like most TSs I meet have a built in self-destruct mechanism or are gold diggers.

Cheers,

--Patrick.

TGIRL IS OUT OF SURGERY
Subject: Final Update
Date: 2/9/2005 2:39:11 P.M. Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Helloooooo, everyone!

I'm hommmmmmme! I returned home on February 7th, 2005 -- it’s been about four weeks since I last posted an email regarding my stay in Thailand. I tried to post an email just before I left Thailand, but my schedule didn't give me enough time -- I was only part-way through my draft when I ran out of time. It is now more than one calendar month from the day I was “reborn” in Dr. Suporn’s operating theatre. Due to an early morning flight and the preparations I had to do prior to the relatively short 15 hours of air travel, I had to wake up at 3:15am on the morning of the flight! Eeek, that was not something I looked forward to. However, I managed to wake up and get everything done before catching the shuttle bus to the Bangkok International Airport.

I spent my last two weeks in Thailand in Pattaya recovering nicely from my surgeries. I have not had any problems worth mentioning (because they are really, really minor) and I’m healing very well. In fact, I’m healing so well I’m able to do a lot more than virtually all other patients! The last couple of weeks have felt less like a period of recovery and more of a period of relaxation...and fun! I have spent most of my time in Pattaya with my very close friend, Kimmy, and her boyfriend enjoying a variety of
activities such as: Sitting by the beach, boating to an island and sitting by the beach, and shopping in the local stores, malls, and streets...THEN sitting by the beach! LOL, yes, there was a lot of sitting by the beach! I didn’t get a tan -- apparently, the Thai people regard white skin as very beautiful, so I thought all the attention and compliments from the local men was more important than getting a tan! Hee hee!

The days I’ve spent in Thailand seemed to have disappeared too quickly. I was somewhat sad to leave all my friends behind when I returned to Canada. Thailand is a wonderful place and it will always have a very place in my heart. It is here in Thailand that I have emerged from my cocoon with the help of Dr. Suporn and his surgical brilliance to finally become who I truly feel I am -- a woman in both mind and now in body. I am so pleased I'm nearing the end of my journey, and I couldn't be happier with myself! Well, I could be a LITTLE more happy, as I have plans to do many things and get on with life. It's time to start taking each day as they come and live each day to the fullest as best I can, for the when the days pass by we cannot relive them. The future looks exciting and I can't wait to recover fully so that I can enjoy everything I'm so eager to do!

February is going to be a time of rest, recuperation, and re-establishing my routines. I will not be returning to work anytime soon, as I have a long ways to go before I'm physically capable of doing even light duties at work -- I'm still a little sore and I shouldn't sit or stand for any considerable length of time. So, it looks like I'll be kicking back and watching DVDs from the living room couch for a while, in between looking after myself. LOL Please, feel free to call me to get together -- I'm able to drive myself around and sit and chat for a while...I just can't overdo it just yet -- recovery is my top priority.

Soooo, I wish everyone as much happiness as I feel right now. May all your dreams come true and may you succeed in all your endeavours. My love to all!!! :-)

Love,

--Alissa xoxox.

NEEDS HELP VIA EMAIL
Subject: Web Site
Date: 2/8/2005 11:09:40 A.M. Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi,

I'm pretty impressed with your website, offering a huge amount of information regarding dating transsexuals. This might sound a little weird and out of the blue... but could you offer personal email-to-email help?

--David.

NEEDS TGIRL PHILOSOPHER
Subject: Budding Interest...
Date: 2/7/2005 3:15:24 P.M. Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Michael...

I was wondering, and since you know the bulk of people in the chatroom, I thought you might be able direct me...a bit...I have some tough questions I would like to mull over, and was hoping you might know if there are any budding philosphers in the group. I need to bounce some deep questions off a Tgirl who has a real solid grasp on who they are, and where they are going. There are so many young ladies, who are angry, or frustrated, certain of their choices, but confused.

I would really like to start up a dialog with someone who is solid, or a solid as can be considered. Think about it...and let me know.

Sincerely,

--Bert.

WHAT ABOUT TGIRLS WHO ARE TOPS?
Subject: Re: "How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual" page
Date: 2/7/2005 8:27:16 A.M. Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello,

I hope that you are doing well. I wanted to write for two reasons. First, I think it's great that you have put this resource up on the web to help educate men about the realities of transgendered women. I'm sure that many men, like myself, find it helpful and that you are making a positive difference.

I had one question regarding a part of the "How to Date a Pre-Op Transsexual" page, however. In this section, you say: "A TS on hormones may not have a functional penis. And a TS with the sensibilities of a genetic woman is very unlikely to want to fuck a guy in the ass or stuff it down his throat anyway, so a straight guy need not be concerned about it." And "Therefore, hardly any TS with the sensibilities of a woman will be looking to 'top' a guy or will be looking for a guy who wants to suck her dick."

It seems to me that there are at least a few transsexuals who consider themselves as "top" or "versatile" at the least, and who are not escorts who try to sell themselves as "tops" just to be more appealing to men. Does this necessarily mean that they do not have the sensibilities of a woman? Even a woman can have a partially dominant streak which might express itself within a transgendered women through a desire to top a guy, I would imagine, while not making her any less of a woman.

I was just curious to find out your take on this. Perhaps there just aren't too many women out there like this and it wasn't worth a mention on the website (and might give some guys out there the wrong ideas), though I seem to think that they do exist and are just as feminine in all other aspects as "bottom" transgendered women? You probably have more knowledge about this than I do, but again, I was just curious to hear your response and what your opinions are about this particular population of transgendered women.

Thanks again for a great website!

--F.D.

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