TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.
ATTRACTIVE TGIRLS ARE HOOKING
I'm writing to say how happy I was to find and use your site. I'm an attractive male who has found it nearly impossible to find a Tgirl for a girlfriend. I see many ads and sites, sure, but all are expensive and the ads have always been escorts (prostitutes). I began to think all beautiful and voluptuous Tgirls were hooking.
In a way, I understand, because of the immense expensive of hormones and surgery. Your site gives me hope that I may find that special girl I will cherish. I live in New York and would appreciate any other resources you can suggest. Thank you.
TGIRLS ACCEPT HIM MORE READILY THAN GENETIC WOMEN?
This is not the easiest letter for me to write, but I am in need of advice.
I am an openly bisexual male living in the Burlington, Vermont, area who has a few close genetically female friends, but has given up on being in a fully intimate relationship with one.
The reason: Where I live, my bisexuality is an issue that most genetic women are either unable or unwilling to deal with. I am also openly polyamorous -- although the prefix "poly" is inaccurate, in my case; I'm actually bi-amorous.
I have a male companion who lives in Montreal and has been a major part of my life for 21 years -- and I won't give him up (ss several women have demanded). He is exclusively gay, so there's no chance of a complete bisexual triangle. I am 53 years old and have been out of the closet for 28 years -- the last 13 years as bisexual.
Although I have long had a feeling in the deepest part of my soul that if I were to have a girlfriend, she would be a transgendered one, it is only now that I am fully embracing it.
My chances of meeting a Tgirl here in Vermont are slim at best, yet I'm of the frame of mind that one long-distance relationship is enough, since it appears that most Tgirls online I find myself attracted to attracted to live hundreds, even thousands, of miles away.
I feel like I'm caught between the proverbial rock and a hard place. Suggestions?
Keep up the good work. I am proud of what you are doing. Why settle for just half when one could have everything? It's a God-given blessing for you to have and enjoy. Thanks many times for what you are doing.
BOYFRIEND DATED A TGIRL
ARTICLE IS OFF BASE, SHE SAYS
I am Loren Coven, author of GreyMatters, a transgendered webcomic that focuses on relationships.
I have recently found your site and have been reading through its contents trying to find a good resource for the readers of my comic. I cover many types of relationships that involved being transgendered, and I want a link for my site so the male readers interested in love have a place to go for information. I have been reading through a lot of your articles and alot of them are really good, as well as the chatroom you offer.
There was one article that made me want to slap the author with how angry, homophobic, eliteist, and confused she was writing it.
"What a TS Woman Wants." By- Danielle A.
As I read it, the image of a ranting drunk came to mind. I feel sorry for Utah's GLBT community with her being given a section of a newsletter to spew her anger on. There is a defininte angry overtone to the whole article despite its heart being in the right place. I'll post some of the parts that disturbed me and my girlfriend a bit more than the rest of it.
"A transvestite is different: That is a guy who gets his kicks dressing as a chick. He doesn't identify as a female, he identifies as male. These are usually the ones you see in porn movies, the ones that are called 'shemales.'"
The first part is only half informed and the last part is from out of nowhere. I work in the adult entertainment field and none of the "shemales" I have seen in porn are transvestites, a lot are just transsexuals that have a high testosterone level and a lot of surgeries.
"So, if a gay guy wants me, then he has just insulted me greatly."
"If a bisexual man wants me, then he has also just insulted me, if he is in fact seeing me as the male part to his attraction."
"When it comes to me, you will never touch my penis. If you do, you will make me cry and I will lose the mood. I hate that damn thing, it is a horrible thing to have to live with, being a woman with this 'thing.' Being with me sexually means that I will enjoy pleasing you and watching you being pleased with my actions. It gives me pleasure to see you enjoying me; the greatest joy when you are experiencing me, feeling me, seeing me as the person I truly am: Just a chick. I will get my orgasmic pleasure later after the surgery."
I'm a little concerned for the intimate relationships of the guys who read this part and take it as every trans girl feeling this way. If I was a guy and read this, I would be afraid to touch even my own penis let alone that of a trans girlfriend.
"The problem between the sexes is that men often (not always, dears, OK?) objectify women and thru these masturbatory fantasies they lose their empathy. They never have realistic fantasies. Their fantasies are this 'perfect' type of world. There are no odors, feelings, awkwardness, nothing involved but this 'perfect' type of sex. They entertain these fantasies and then someday, they might try to make them a reality. What they often find, however, is that no one wants to just jump in bed with them like they do in their fantasies; and that feelings arise and hearts get broken.
"Men often think that because they think this stuff, and because they feel that way, that women must think that way, too. WRONG! Women usually think very, very differently from men."
Honestly, something like this with how it beats men over the head would scare most men off. I know most guys are driven by their libido but this seems to assume that that's all they are driven by.
"Obviously, seeing a pre-op TS woman as something attractive physically to a straight guy takes a very open mind and a empathetic heart. We understand that."
I feel dirty now. Is being transgendered unattrective?
The rest all mushed togehter into a loud, overbearing bludgeoning to my intelligence with how she talks down the whole time and I feel insulted as a transgendered individual that this person will be taken as a source of serious information and how this person views not only other transgendered individuals, but other anyone who reads the article and even herself. The overall message of "Be a nice guy and think before you open your mouth" is all but lost in the anger of the paragraphs this person put together. I know everyone has their critics and that people have their way of say of saying things, but is this what you want the users of your site to see and take to heart as it crushes their egoes and insults their intelligence? I know I don't want that for my readers.
Whatever you decide to do is up to you, it is your site, after all. All I ask is that you take what I'm saying into consideration, maybe have another person write this subject, or just take this this one off altogether. TSGirlfriend.com is a great resource for any guy who wants to date a trans girl and I would hate to see something like this bring down its quality.
WANTS A TGIRL TO LOVE HIM
I have read how these guys have been total jerks to these ladies and that's not me. I am not a jerk or rude like these guys have been. I treat people with respect, as I like to be treated. I'm not gay but I have read all the pages about how a TS is really a woman in a man's body. I have feelings too, and mine have just been broken about a million times over. All I would like is just a woman to love me for who I am. I'm not perfect in any way and I don't pretend to be. I just want to meet an awesome woman. Well I hope you hear me out. If not, I only hope the best for you. Take care.
HIS NEXT TGIRL
I first met a transgendered girl a several years ago and had a wonderful relationship. When my job moved me, our relationship failed. Our meeting was by chance and I never was immersed in the TS scene, so I don't even know anything about it.
I met her at work and well, things just went from there. My girl was just that, a girl. Her friends were just a variety of people and her life was pretty much normal.
I miss the attention my Tgirl would give. All the GG women I've dated are power hungry, money grubbing, prudish, etc, not real women. I was raised that women were soft, smooth, smelled sweet. A woman is supposed to be sensitive and nurturing.
I'm going through a divorce and I'm reentering the dating arena. Only the most beautiful, sweetest, most feminine will I seek. You are 100% right. The female form is what is so wondrously beautiful. It's the attitude, not the equipment.
I went through the whole, "Am I gay or am I bi?" scenario and it has nothing to do with that. She was a girl and I a man. We made love and it was wonderful. It took some time for me to accept some of the activities as being "homosexual" in the sense that because our relationship was so open, we experimented often. Her "plumbing" still gave her pleasure so, I didn't have a problem accommodating.
If one were to see me, you would think, "Now there's a man's man." I'm heavily muscled, tattooed, of Dutch/Irish/Cherokee descent.
So, for all you guys that are thinking that being with a transgendered person makes you gay, think again.
I am going to a pub this weekend, where TS girls are known to frequent. I hope to meet some new friends and learn more about life with a transgendered woman. The lady of my dreams is out there somewhere and I aim to find her.
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