TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
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I read the article, it sounds accurate for straight-up heterosexual guys. A Tgirl with a vagina is just another girl that can't have babies. But I found out through discussion and reading that there are post-op complications like shirking of the vagina, making sex difficult.
I am a guy and unless the girl likes anal, that would probably send me packing if I did not know her well. From a guy's perspective, what's the point? I guess we could be just platonic friends. For a relationship, I could seek greener pastures.
Me, I have always been attracted to attractive, versatile transsexual and intersexed girls since I was a boy, and still am now as guy in his 40s. I am not bi and not attracted to men at all. I tried it several times at a young age and it did not float my boat. I am not a admirer or fetish seeker, I find those terms derogatory.
Just as heterosexual men and boys like girls, and gay men and boys like other guys, I like girls with a penis or a very large clitoris, so I have always liked the true of heart, non-op, versatile transsexual and intersex-looking girls. There is a female bigot running a transgender site who accuses men like me as being interested only in cybersex, soliciting teens and adults, or of being "admirers."
I guess I can't change the way I am wired, just like a gay, hetrosexual or bi man can't change himself either. I am wired for transsexual and intersexed girls, and it seems guys such as me are treated like shit by them and websites, so we are single. The gay and bi man of the mid-20th century was treated like some pedophile or obscene pervert. Where is it going to end?
THE GUY SHE KNEW FROM WAY BACK
I'm Jenay, 22 years old, pre-op, and I came across your website while searching for "when I should tell my boyfriend I'm a transsexual."
So I decided to give this is a shot.
I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks. We began messaging each other on Facebook, and we just started texting each other.
I have been extremely hesitant to grow close to him or even talk to anybody who doesn't know I'm a TS, but I have been so tired of the tranny chasers. I just want to feel like a normal girl without the "how big is it?" or, "do you like to play with it?" questions.
I've been trying to get a sense of his personality, whether he gets angry or has compassion for people differences. Really, I'm just trying to get a sense of his personality, that way I know what I should expect and make sure I'm safe. He seems to know all the right things to say and really seems to like me, not just physically.
I have not met him face to face but I am strongly considering going on a date with him, and then after a few dates (without sex or even kissing) telling him what's really going on with me.
Did I mention I live with my ex-boyfriend? And would you believe I knew the guy I'm talking to from middle school, well before my transition?
What should I do? HELP! PLEASE!
OF HIS TGIRL ATTRACTION
I realize that this email might come off as very ignorant and/or rude. That is NOT my intention. I am just seeking advice, and I hope that your experience and view on sexuality can help.
I am 43 and have always thought of myself as hetrosexual. Yet, there are times when I am close to a male coworker, I have sexual thoughts about him and I.
I am asking you for help because I have a date with a pre-op TS today. I have dated her once before. She came over to my apartment and we made out. Now, I understand that she is a woman trapped in the shell of a man. I ABSOLUTELY accept that.
You are not a counselor or psychologist and I realize I should be talking with one (if only finances allowed it), but I wonder if I'm attracted to because she's a woman trapped in a man's body, or if because I've had bisexual thoughts going back 30-some years. I did enjoy the kissing very much, and I do get aroused when thinking about kissing her...or doing other things.
Again...I know that this most likely sounds like so many letters that you have received over the years, but I am at a loss. Any advice, ideas, or wisdom would be appreciated.
SHOW ME THE MONEY!
Hello, I need advice.
I am star struck by a beautiful pre-op transgendered woman who has decided to become an escort. I really like her, I love her beautiful face, her sharp mind, and her cute giggle. She wants to charge for any time we spend together. On a date, the dinner bill was $110. She demanded I pay her for the "experience." I told her that I didn't know that she was a "working" girl.
She always puts a dollar amount on everything. I honestly feel that she is too beautiful to degrade herself like this. I would accept a dancer, or a model but just not an escort. Is there any way to reach out to her and persuade her to change her mentality? I would hate to lose such a beautiful, intelligent woman to this. I just don't know what to do, I don't want to acknowledge her as an escort but a person, she always deflects and says, "If you don't want to pay for me, then don't call me."
HE WANTS TGIRL
DICK, OR NOT
I'm Jeremie from Louisiana. Umm I feel kind of bad but also misinformed at the same time. I'm sending this email to this address because I do not want to mess up or offend anyone when I go into the chat room. In all honesty I'm freaking nervous. And I understand TS's are women. No doubt, I do not argue that fact.
I am 28 now and I have only been with genetic women. But I have always had thoughts about being with men. Really, though, I couldn't imagine myself being with a man, it's just eww to me. What I am trying to say is, first off, I want to fall in love with a pre-op, post-op, non-op or born female. A big interest to me would be a pre-op or non-op.
I love the softness, the sweetness and the femininity, that is what gets me going. I have seen some of the most gorgeous and seemingly wonderful and amazing women on sites for TS's but pre-op and non-op still do have the male part, and that on a beautiful woman honestly turns me on.
Now, I wouldn't care if I were with a pre-op and she still wanted to get SRS. First off, I would never try to change her mind and I would support her decision without a doubt. I know I am not gay. I know I'm not bi curious because I would never be with a man, but I like the male attachment. And I'm not going to ask her to perform any sexual acts on me with the penis. I don't know, I'm just so nervous and confused. What should I do?
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