TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

March, 2003

By- Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

WHY HE'S ATTRACTED TO TGIRLS
Subj: Thanks
Date: 3/31/2003 12:36:21 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I have tried to expain to people why I'm attracted to TS's, I know im not gay. I love the femininity of TS's and they way they treat men. Thanks for your website.

WANTS NEW TGIRL RELATIONSHIP
Subj: Meeting a TS
Date: 3/28/2003 11:34:16 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I just got out of a relationship with a pre-op TS after three months. We met by chance and, while I have always been fascinated with TS's, I had never met one. One day all things changed and I have to say it was a wonderful experience. Unfortunately, she had to go back to her family business on the East Coast and I could not leave mine.

My question now is, where would you find a NICE TS in the Los Angeles area? I'm not talking about the hookers or escorts who are around. I'm talking about a relationship-quality TS. Are there any clubs or areas that could be suggested? Any help you or your readers could provide would help. By the way, this is a great website with some great information about the TS lifestyle.

--T.G.

MET A GREAT TGIRL
Subj: Met Great Girl thorugh Your Site
Date: 3/27/2003 3:04:38 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I met a great girl through your site. Problem is, I am twice as old as she is, and she also lives thousands of miles away and we have totally different backgrounds and cultures. Will keep my fingers crossed.

--M.

TGIRL STEPS TO SUCCESS
Subj: Response to TGirl to Fulfill Career Dreams
Date: 3/26/2003 6:43:48 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

In response to the previous posting (Wants TGirl to Fulfill Career Dreams):

Fulfilling career goals is definitely a challenge for many TS girls. Before your girlfriend can achieve her goals, she has to feel comfortable in her own skin. Thus, feeling comfortable enough to interact with coworkers or classmates in her environment. I personally just returned to school, about two years ago, to finish my degree. Getting started was the difficult part. Luckily, I had a lot of help and encouragement from the Women's Center on campus who kept my former name and current medical status in the strictest of confidence. It's all about taking steps. When she, your girlfriend, is ready to pursue her dreams with abandon, she will. Just remember she is taking steps every day. And albeit, maybe some days she takes a step or two back. Just keep encouraging her, and when the time is right, she will take bigger steps. Also remember that she has to start somewhere and if she is going to beauty school or doing nails, at least she isn't a prostitute and that in itself is a great start.

WANTS TGIRL TO FULFILL CAREER DREAMS
Subj: Thanks again
Date: 3/25/2003 1:57:48 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I read through most of your articles. The one on how to date a pre-op was informative. I am in the process of helping my TS girlfriend get her confidence up. She is very shy and I know she is holding herself back. What I mean by this is a lot of TS's find jobs just because they know they will be accepted there. Like beauty schools, or even escorting. I am trying to be understanding of how she feels, but at the same time I want so much to help her. I am doing it slowly and she is coming around. I am aware that she is the one that has to live her life. I just don't want someone who in her heart wants to be a nurse or doctor to end up doing hair and nails. If you have any research that you have done in this area I would love to read it. I think I am doing OK, but any help is always good. Thanks and you should be honored for what you are doing for the guys and gals here.

--Jim.

TGIRLS ATTRACT HIM
Subj: Wonderful
Date: 3/22/2003 12:22:59 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I'd like to say that your article was the greatest. Yes, I am a straight male that finds myself attracted to TS's, and did not know how to approach them. I tried to get info in chatrooms, but most of them are so rude that it was impossible. Thanks again.

TGIRL WANTS A SERIOUS MAN
Subj: ts longterm ad
Date: 3/17/2003 1:29:26 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: (Deleted)
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi, I was told that I needed to check you guys out and let me not forget to mention that my friend spoke very highly of your services. I'm a pre-op 36-year-old Cherokee/black who has known of my sexual preference since I was about 5 or 6 years old. Because the men I've met just wanted a fantasy fulfilled or were closet cases, I have chosen to find a serious relationship by other means. I was told about you, so hook a sister up and let's see. Maybe I have found the right means of finding a serious and true man. New found friend or foe?

--Jennifer.

THE PSYCHOLOGIST AGREES
Subj: Your article on dating
Date: 3/14/2003 1:38:39 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I agree with one of the reasons [in the article on dating the pre-op TS], I find that I connect much better with a TS than a biological woman, and I have been married for 30 years. The connection with my wife is not the same as with just being with, and being friends with, a transgendered woman. I have even discussed this with a psychologist who works with transgenders and she agrees with the reason I prefer to be with transgenders.

TGIRL LINKS FROM HER HOMETOWN AOL PAGE
Subj: your site
Date: 3/14/2003 9:51:41 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello, I hope you don't mind, but I put a link to your page in my homepage, only thing is, people keep thinking I wrote it. I'm just wondering if you wanted a credit of some kind, and if so, what would you like me to say? I don't want to take away your credit, even accidentally. Thanks.

--Maya.

HAS NEVER HAD MORE FUN
Subj: Articles
Date: 3/13/2003 6:33:52 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Interesting articles about dating a TS. I can only speak from my own experiences and say that I've never had more fun than with a TS. I think that any free-minded guy would find a TS more feminine and generally more attractive than most "real" women.

--John.

MORE THAN TWO GENDERS
Subj: ts girlfriend for me, too
Date: 3/12/2003 7:11:40 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

You have created a wonderful website. It is great to have the dialogue out there. I started writing something very long to you about my experiences in relationships with transsexuals. I have had transsexual lovers and friends. I have met them through ads (many have remained friends) and on the street. I never was much for clubs. I have yet to find a club in the SF Bay Area that is comfortable for me. But actually, this is not about that.

I wanted to share my insight that past the "machine" is the spirit. I have had the good fortune to come in contact with good people. I learned that transsexuals are human beings, not just a commodity. That is the unfortunate part of the "sex industry" aspect, you see some beautiful people but getting beneath the surface is not easy.

I read somewhere on your site that men are attracted to transsexuals because of their femininity, that they would be the "only woman in a dress" in some clubs. I find that to be mostly stereotype and irrelevant. In fact, I have known transsexuals to be rather "masculine" but in a feminine way (imagine Glenn Close with a penis -- I hope that this allusion is not offensive to anyone out there!) And I don't mean looks. I am speaking of an internal condition.

Transsexuals prove that there are more than two genders in our human domain. My feeling is that if there are people like transsexuals, then there must be people who love them. I'm proud to proclaim that to you here. I hope that you will continue your work to bring the human quality to this relationship experience.

Best wishes.

TGIRL APPLAUDS & HOPES
Subj: about your profile and website
Date: 3/12/2003 1:10:23 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

BRAVO! To you, your mentality and your website. I am so proud of you. You are a true man and one with great insight. I applaud your way of thinking. Thank you for producing such a wonderful web page. Your lady is very lucky to have you and I only wish that one day I can meet and fall in love with a man like you. May the gods bless you both.

--MZ Kitara.

HIS TGIRL FRIEND WANTS A MAN
Subj: Finding a man for a mature post-op
Date: 3/12/2003 9:01:33 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I have a friend who is about 50 years old, a 100-percent passable post-op, Jewish and a high school teacher. I told her that there are plenty of men in New York that would love to meet her but she says that men who are 55 to 60 want a 30- to 35-year-old female. She once had a boyfriend in Seattle for about seven years but she was afraid to tell him her story. Nobody knows except for a few other post-op friends. Even her female girlfriends do not know.

I know she is looking for a very serious male who probably lives in the NYC area who is intellectual, political, and a non-smoker, and who is looking for a lifetime companion or marriage. I would appreciate it if you could give me some sites that would be appropriate for her to get a free personal listing.

--Steve.

THAI TGIRL WONDERS WHAT TO DO
Subj: Your web makes me feel better
Date: 3/11/2003 11:07:01 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello,

I'm post-op heterosexual transwoman, 29 years old, from Thailand. I work as a doctor. I found your website through a search engine. I was alarmed with the animation cartoon, it is awful but funny. I thought this might be a porn site, but realized that was wrong when I saw the subject matter. Wow!! That's interesting!!

I read all the material, including how a guy should date a TS or transgendered person. Ummm, that's right, it's better if a guy thinks about a TS as a genetic woman and treats us the same way. But I think it's very hard to find a man who can do that.

For me, I've not really had a problem getting a date. Maybe I am lucky that my voice and manner are feminine, I am 5'6", 110 pounds. Nobody knows that I am a TS, they think I am a woman from birth. But I have met a guy who interests me.

The point is, it is so hard to tell them about my real gender, if they find out they will think of me as a liar. I love to stealth, but it is not fair for someone I love. Love is supposed to be honesty, devotion and selflessness. I have told some "who I am" and sure enough, nobody got it. A relationship I once had continued for a while after I told him, then he left me.

Sometimes I am confused. I ask myself, what should I do?

1. Stealth, don't talk of my past, like a liar.
2. Have a relationship for a while, then tell them about my real gender.
3. Tell him about me when I meet a guy who interests me.

My answer to myself:

1. This is cheating and dishonest.
2. My chances of love are 50-50, if a guy loves me for my mind, not for my chromosomes. I am thinking this is a bit selfish, but it's better than the first option.
3. This option means I have a zero chance at love. Probably the guy will run away from me, but it is honest.

I am lonely sometimes. It is spooky to think that I will be alone in my 70s, but I would accept it, it is my fate.

It will be a better world to have a guy, such as one in your article, who will respect me like a woman. This is my first time to tell people that I am a TS. Anyway, if life is beautiful, then I hope I have a nice life, someday.

--Marcha.

HE HAD A TGIRL RELATIONSHIP
Subj: True Understanding
Date: 3/10/2003 6:52:19 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

May I say first that your website is a great resource for men such as myself. There is a small but growing group of men that is not intrested in that "shemale" garbage that has grown to be so normal online. That is for perverts, and you know what? I don't feel like a pervert at all. Yet, I am made to feel like that because I am attracted to Tgirls. It is a shame that a person has to mask their attractions.

I have frequented chatrooms and I have seen the way men speak to the ladies of the room and it is disturbing. My mom would have me beaten me up one side and down the other if I spoke to a lady like that. That is right, I said a lady. I dated a wonderful Tgirl and she was the most loving and caring person I have ever dated. Circumstances of work, moving, etc., ended our romantic relationship, but not our friendship. And that is a first because most relationships end with the person never even calling you again.

Why did it work you may ask? Simply put, we communicated and she had a true understanding of me. Genetic women always seemed to have a deep gorge between them and men. That oftentimes presented roadblocks in communication. With the Tgirl I was involved with, there seemed to be fewer roadblocks. We took to each other like peas and carrots. That is rare and I suppose it exists in what most would deem "normal" relationships, but not for me.

Men, hang in there and be yourself. Don't be too macho to admit that you are attracted to a special girl. Opening your heart to them is something you will never, ever regret. Ladies, please continue to give the real men among us a chance. Not all of us are in it for the wrong reason.

Do not let what society has deemed "normal" get in the way of happiness. After all, life is too short. True understanding is a rare gift indeed. Do not miss it.

Thanks for letting me tell my side, and I am bookmarking your site.

TGIRL SAYS SHE'S HAD DECENT CONVERSATIONS
Subj: (no subject)
Date: 3/4/2003 7:10:21 PM Pacific
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I am completely amazed. I've actually had some decent conversations from normal men that I have directed to the TS Girlfriend site. They have been polite and respectful. Above all, they have not goaded me into sexually explicit conversations about their own fantasies. One gentleman in particular has spent several days conversing with me online. He didn't even pressure me for a "pic" and said whenever I was ready would be fine with him. It is amazing that there are still some real gentlemen left in the world. I'm planning to see him sometime in the near future. Who knows? Maybe he's the one! :) Thanks for creating an honest venue for honest girls and guys to meet.

HE HAD QUESTIONS, WE HAD ANSWERS
Subj: website
Date: 3/2/2003 7:10:37 PM Pacific
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi Nikki,

I thoroughly enjoyed your website. It was very informative and put into words the thoughts I've been thinking. You've answered many questions that I have concerning dating, etc. Great job!

--Jim.

MARRIED MAN THANKS THE HOOKERS, PART 2
Subj: the morality of prostitution
Date: 3/15/2003 9:13:32 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Please allow me one small clarification on a previous comment I made. When I said that prostitution was "certainly not immoral," did not mean to excuse my own behavior or anybody else's. Certainly not my own. I meant that I don't believe prostitutes should be judged as less moral than others who have not walked in their shoes.

--John.

TGIRL WONDERS WHAT HIS WIFE WOULD THINK
Subj: (no subject)
Date: 3/2/2003 6:12:51 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Disgusting. I cannot believe you posted that letter from John [below]. "...nothing immoral about it." Right...this comes from a married man who cheats on his wife! I wonder what she would think about his infidelities. Sounds like he's just another jerk trying to find a piece!

MARRIED MAN THANKS THE HOOKERS
Subj: on prostitution
Date: 3/1/2003 9:04:20 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Because I am a married man who wants to stay married, and a man who was irrestistably drawn to the beautiful women I saw in the San Francisco Spectator, I was one of those guys who showed up at the door, wanting to fuck and suck and get fucked. I'm not proud of it.

But I want to thank the women I met for tolerating my ignorance, inexperience and folly. In four words: Thanks, I needed that.

If tomorrow I meet a transgendered woman, I have a good chance of being able to relate decently to her, minus the undefined desires and scripted fantasies I began with a year ago.

Greedily, I am thankful for working girls. I thank each of you, every one of you. I regret that I profited from your misfortune, but I hope that you will not suffer too badly from it. We all accomplish some good in this life, and working girls maybe accomplish more than most of us. Certainly there is nothing immoral about it.

--John.

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