TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
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STILL LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP
Well, I am born and raised here in San Diego. Not really into the "tranny chaser" scene, however lately I as have felt the desire for a friendship with a gentleman that understands that, to grow a tree, you need roots, if that makes any sense. lolol Anyhow, I have not had the desperation of chat rooms, yet!! :-) Nor do I like that whole IM thing. So I decided to Google. My problem. And badda-bing, After reading a few overheads, I read yours, checked your Tgirl letters page and was intrigued. Not really sure on what's next. But if you're single or know of any sane gentleman out there in seek of an awesome girl with a world of sanity to offer for a healthy, and potentially growing, friendship, that has NOTHING to do with sex, come (or send him) my way.
I have spent most of my last five years in a long-term relationship, then stepped out to explore the world as a single woman, only to find that the "perfect gentleman" I was searching for does not exist. Although I have been around the world, I still have had no luck. So if this email is not outta place and you have some answers for me as to where I could search or check, respectfully I would greatly appreciate your reply. :-) Maybe over a coffee? :-) Or just email, whatever is to your convenience.
SERIOUSLY APPRECIATES THE CHATROOM
A PHILIPPINE TGIRL
WOULD LIKE TO FALL IN LOVE
AGREES BEING POST-OP DOESN'T MEAN DATELESS
I'm Sandy from Hollywood, Florida, I've been post-op for 20 years and over the years I have found as a pre-op and as now post-op I never really had a problem meeting guys, I started living as a girl/woman since the age of 16 while I was still at high school and on hormones, and in 1986 at the age of 26 I underwent SRS. I've had my share of boyfriends in the past plus I've been married twice, my first husband I was with for 10 years and now husband # 2 I've been with for the past six years. Both husbands have treated me well.
I work as a showgirl here but I don't class myself as a club girl, I'm not into the "admirers," they just seem to be out for one thing only, a quick fling, thats not me and never has been.
My first husband, Richard, didn't know that I'm TS to start with. He was a night club owner, I told him on our third date. We were married not long after in July, 1990, and divorced in 2000, all because I couldn't give him a child, but he knew that from the start.
Maurice and I were married in April of 2000, we met in January, Richard and I were already split up. Maurice and I are happy, He knows about my past, I feel it's only right IF a girl meets a guy that she should be totally honest about her life because the past does catch up with you in the end, it did with me a few times and IF you start off with a lie its just followed by another then another and that's not good for a strong, healthy relationship. It brings nothing but trouble, trust me. I did the stealth life for 13 years when I was working as a model/actress and then the brown stuff hit the fan. Someone from my past outted me to the British press on my wedding day but couldent really prove that I was, in fact, born male, My career went downhill from there.
Lucky for me, I'd already told Richard everything, we both did all the talk shows, newspapers and magazines between 1990 through 1997 when I moved here to South Florida. OMG, I'm rambling on about my life, point is being post-op doesn't mean you have to be dateless, it's just finding that right partner for you that is hard.
GUY SEEKING TGIRL
DO YOU FIND A TGIRL?
I am not really on the hunt for a relationship currently, but in the near future when I am, I have thought seriously about trying to find a transsexual woman. Can you give me any tips on how to find them in my city, or in a closer big city? They aren't exactly the majority and I wouldn't have a clue how to find them. Thanks.
THAT "SPECIAL" TGIRL
For a variety of reasons, I have decided that I would really like to develop an intimate relationship with a special TS woman.
Thanks to the information on your website, I feel more informed about how to interact intelligently and also understand what she might be feeling and what fears she may have.
So often in a new arena, without knowing the rules of engagement, a perfectly honest and sincere individual can appear to be incompetent because he does not know the sensitivity of the people he wants to interact with.
I can see that it will be much more difficult to meet a special TS woman compared to a GG, but I think the wait will be well worth it. I really want to find a pre-op TS that intends to stay that way, but I am finding that most pre-op women plan to eventually have SRS. Does this agree with your experience also?
In many ways, I cannot imagine a more incredible emotional, spiritual and sexual connection than with a pre-op TS woman!
Once again, thank you so much for the great coaching!
TGIRL FOR FAIRY-TALE ENDING ROMANCE
I'm gonna try not to write a novel. I'm a single white bi guy, 41, 6'3", 265 lbs., been involved in TV, TS, TG, CD, DQ lifestyle things for over 20 years. I've been in several long-term relationships, but now single and looking for my best friend, lover and soulmate! I've seen and done most everything, been involved with two post-ops, but they ended up being more confused after SRS than they were before. Most others were into drugs or alcohol or looking for the ultimate dollar. I'm just a blue-collar worker but can have have provided my share. I'm looking for an equal partner, not a gold digger. In most relationships, both people work to get by, but for me I am just looking to take care of someone. I hope I can find a genuine person via the Internet for a love story with a fairy book ending.
INFO ON GUYS INTO TGIRLS
I am interested if you have any information about the psychology of men who prefer transgendered women. I have written you before. In fact, my question and your answer are still on the site. I have been doing some research to see if there were any studies about such men. So far I've come up with a big fat nothing. Any help would be appreciated, thank you.
LEARNED A LOT ABOUT TGIRLS
NEVER HEARD SUCH CRAP
I read your article, about the guy that walked out on the girl in the pick-up bar. I have never heard such crap. You can't gauge what a man's actions mean! Its not an exact science, what if something happened to him? Did you factor that into your assumptions?
Sure, it was a shitty thing to do but it's life, it happens. Don't think so much, do you think men do? He maybe met someone else or had issues that you don't and can't possible know about.
I can't stand people that think they can figure out what someone else's actions actually mean. No one really can.
TGIRL THROUGH HORMONE THERAPY
This may sound a little odd, but I'm in need of some advice (if you can give it). I'm Aisha, a genetic female who is quickly falling in love with a special somebody named Emma, a young TS girl. We're both in our late teens, she's 19 and because of her age she will start hormone therapy sooner or later. Hopefully sooner, but definately within the next year.
I've searched for various pages detailing what happens to a girl during hormone treatment, but most of it seems to be medical, and all of it centers purely on the girl herself.
Other than simply being with her to listen to any problems and encourage her on, is there any way I can help her through her initial hormone treatment?
FOR HIS TGIRL
I love your site. I am a straight divorced 47-year-old man. who lives in Toronto, Canada, and have actually been looking to meet a TS woman for a couple of years now. The main issue is that here the majority of transsexual women are predominantly escorts. Others claim to be transsexuals, however they turn out upon meeting to be transvestites. This is upsetting in an annoying manner and is a real shame.
Having read your articles as well as chatted as well as placed an ad, I am really lookin' forward to corresponding and potentially meeting my woman. For me, a TS is a woman obviously an M-F TS, regardless of who they were when they came out of their mother's womb, genetically speaking that is. They should be treated exactly the same as women are. I do agree that yes, some men are pigs and only think from below our waists, however, I am definitely NOT one of those men. To me a woman is a woman. It's not a physical thing or a visual thing, it's what's inside that counts.
Your site has really helped me to understand a few things that I did NOT already know. I'm not saying I'm an expert on women. Hey if I was I wouldn't be divorced, hahaha. Anyway, just wanted to give the site its due "props" and may it and all of us find true happiness with whomsoever we do.
Peace n harmony always from an ethical, caring, sincere man.
A TGIRL ANY DAY
TGIRL'S BAD DATE STORY IS JUST PLAIN BAD
"Bad Date Story" by Pearl is so stupid I have to wonder WHY you included it on your site. When the "date" initially showed up in sweats and then told her that she should pay for her own dinner, she should have left. In fact, she should have turned around in the lobby of the hotel when he came down from his room dressed in gym clothes. Is Pearl so masochistic she can't pick up signals? Are you, as editors, so dumb you dont realize how dumb this whole story is? Who would want to date a woman, transgender or not, that is so lacking in common sense?
TGIRL'S STILL EVOLVING
I am a pre-op transsexual, I have read your article and I am very impressed, you have covered your subject so well. You are so articulate.
I am a mature person who found my female self at age 50. I believe she was there all my life, now, after having been on hormones for 17 years. It has been an evolving experience for me, and I believe that it will be ongoing for the rest of my life.
I have married three times, even though I have always considered myself bisexual, I have been very confused during my adult life due to a very traumatic childhood..
Being older, makeup is a bit of a dilemma for me, as I do not want to overdo it. That's very hard for me as I have always been a "go all the way" type of person.
accross to me as someone who is experienced and so, so savvy.... I have
never read such an informative article as yours. You are a role model
for me and I am sure you would be an effective consultant for the confused.
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