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IS UNSUCCESSFUL IN GEORGIA
Subject: Pre-op TS friend.
Date: 3/10/2012 5:04:23 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time
I don't know if you are still
with your girlfriend, as the articles I read were several years old, but
I was hoping to get some advice.
Last fall I met a TS while
volunteering, we'll call her K.S., and she has become a close friend.
Granted, I grew up in a small southeast Georgia town, in which we both
currently live, so understand that many people around here are ignorant
to her situation.
K.S. has shared many of her
issues in dating with me and I've even tried to help, but being GG, that
may not be much (we do try and look out for each other, so when she goes
out on first dates she lets me know where and when, in case something
occurs). She is living with her grandparents who are in their 70s and
set in their ways. I know she is lonely and feels isolated, as do I having
returned to my hometown after years away.
K.S. has tried dating online, as there aren't many natural conditions
in which she can meet heterosexual men to date or be fixed up within her
age group (she is 38 years old and has been in transition for eight years)
at the junior college she attends. I suggested she try PlentyOfFish, because
she didn't have any luck at eHarmony. I also suggested she didn't include
such personal information regarding being TS on her profile page. No,
she doesn't want to hide her situation but I think she should meet the
guy before telling him something so personal.
She and I have talked this topic over until we are blue in the face. Not
being in the same shoes, I can't give her personal advice she so desperately
seems to need and she keeps pointing out that I don't understand. If she
gets to the point of meeting a guy something happens and that's it, but
eight out of 10 times she can't get that far. Could it be she is telling
too much too soon? Does she need a refresher on online/phone etiquette?
Any advice, especially from a guy with experience in the TS dating world,
could help give her some perspective. Like your article said, she didn't
have the socialization GG's have and sees it from a eschewed point of
view. Oftentimes she seems ultra sensitive and jumps to conclusions about
the guy before even meeting him face to face. She is at the point of being
constantly disappointed and resigned to a single, lonely life.
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