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DELIBERATIONS OF TGIRL DATING
Subject: Your article
Date: 10/29/2005 12:59:07 PM Pacific Standard Time
I became interested in dating a TS after coming across some photos of
a pre-op TS on a website. I became incredibly aroused like almost nothing
I had ever experienced before. Naturally, this raised some questions in
my mind. Am I gay? But after some pretty intense reflecting, I realized
I wasn't aroused by photos of naked men, just the opposite, frankly. Also,
I realized I was not aroused by photos of TS's who have any other noticeable
male feature other than a penis.
Although I do
enjoy anal sex, I never have had or wished to have sex with a man. But
nevertheless I was turned on by the sight of a totally hot woman having
sex with a man or a woman. The intense arousal and self analysis led me
consider the prospect of dating such a woman. Even at 40 years of age,
I have a serious sex drive, but as I pondered whether or not dating a
TS was what I wanted, the issue you raised about plumbing came to the
fore. I thought that at first that maybe I was bisexual and and that a
pre-op TS is what I wanted, but thankfully upon further consideration
I realized I wasn't so much turned on by the fact she had a penis, but
more so by the sheer novelty of what I was looking at. Almost akin to
a teenager who looks at his first Playboy.
I realized that
I was in a unique situation, it absolutely didn't make any difference
to me either way from a purely sexual standpoint. As a man, I naturally
consider the sexual aspects first. Next came the most important issue
I would face. Was prepared to deal with the social implications? If she
was post-op, obviously no big deal. I personally didn't care if she had
a penis as long as the rest of her was all woman. But what if my friends
found out she had a cock? Socially I don't think I could handle dating
a pre-op TS. I'm a realist. I would lose most of my friends and family.
At least for a little while.
In the end, I decided to hell
with it. I didn't care one iota about her plumbing as long as she has
a nice ass, an ass like a woman, hips all that. Oh yes, I have to say
your website is fantastic. I will be making a donation, the structure
is very impressive.
ALL TGIRLS HERE RACIST?
Date: 10/28/2005 7:25:35 AM Pacific Standard Time
I am a black male located in Springfield, Illinois, sincere, serious,
and seeking a relationship with a TS. I am not a weirdo, nor am I only
seeking sex. I am single, professionally employed and an outstanding member
of the community. I have exchanged emails with several of your members,
and the conversation is usually great until I tell them I am African-American.
I made my mind up that this is what I want. I would like to know what
I am doing wrong, where I should look, should I give up and go back to
GG's, or are all TS's, that are not sluts or escorts are RACIST. Please
help me understand.
JUST WANTS TO BE LOVED FOR WHO SHE IS
Subject: I am alone...
Date: 10/26/2005 3:10:02 PM Pacific Standard Time
I'm an attractive, beautiful,
educated, 44-year-old woman just moved to Canada.
Nobody knows I am a TG woman,
not even my ex-husband that I lived with for 14 years, and also my second
husband. I feel alone, I am not happy and feel I am a liar,
and after 24 years, I wanna talk about myself. I want to date a man who
loves me because of who I am.
Can you help me, please? I
don't wanna be nervous when I have sex any more. I want to be free and
happy about my body.
TURNS ON TO PORN
Subject: re: date-a-pre-op-ts-article
Date: 10/22/2005 5:14:45 PM Pacific Standard Time
Excellent article, your points are well made. I find myself in the center
of what I believe to be an unusual circumstance, however, one I'm quite
sure is my own misunderstanding of the commonly recorded tales.
I am extremly TG myself, and often find myself masturbating over shemale
photos and films. On the other hand, my GG partner is also turned on by
my crossdressing and the sight and sound of shemale porn flicks. I think
that to a certain extent, my full-blown (pardon the expression,) crossdressing
allows her to express her deeply-repressed lesbian tendancies. Now, I
often wonder about my sexual preference, although I've proven to myself
through experimentation that "normal" gay sex is absolutely
not my cup of tea. I haven't bothered trying to understand her desires,
I just appreciate them. So, I'm left feeling totally confused by labels.
I am not a transsexual fully, I have no desire to endure SRS, although
the thought of permanant breast implants excites me. I am not interested
in sex with a male, although the concept of making a male desire me while
dressed and satisfying him completly is exciting. I think that feeling
is just a human craving, rather than any specific gender issue.
In my world, if my GG partner woke up tomorrow with a penis instead of
a clitoris, I think we could both live happily ever after. And then, some
days I think that would be a mistake.
All I know right now is, I have a wild and wonderful love life that I
would not change for anything. Anyway, thanks for your insights, I've
got some leg to shave, so I'll be off.
WANTS THE ARTICLE, TOO
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 10/21/2005 5:02:16 AM Pacific Standard Time
Thank you for the printout on TS dating. Many men want to go out with
me but they don't know I'm a transsexual. The ones I told became distant,
and I prefer a straight man than one being gay. Hopefully when I read
and reread this article, I'll know how to handle it better. I'm a pre-op
and 100% passable and approved for SRS. Once again, thank you.
HIS EYE ON A CERTAIN TGIRL
Subject: becoming a member
Date: 10/20/2005 9:26:43 AM Pacific Standard Time
I have visited your website and I have tried to join by becoming a member.
Perhaps I have not done it correctly, but I tried to become a member once
before and I waited for some kind of reply but never recieved one so I
tried again today. I have no problem going through some kind of vetting
process as this is something that I have been looking for, (a ligitimate
TS personal dating place) because every other place I have come across,
until I found your website, was whores and sluts just looking to use and
I have perused the ads and there is one particular lady that I would like
to get to know and I have been waiting for the membership approval in
order to proceed, and I would really like to begin the process of getting
to know her (If she is so inclined, and I hope she will be) but I would
just like to know if there is something else I need to complete. How long
I should expect the approval process to take? Thanks.
ALWAYS DRESSES NICE
Subject: Thanks for the article
Date: 10/14/2005 1:29:54 PM Pacific Standard Time
A great article that many men should read. You seperated men as those
looking for an "experience," and those of us looking for a relationship,
great job. I have wanted to date a TS for many years now, but also understood
the fact that just to get a date was extremely hard to do.
Many TS women
tend to group us all together and have built up a wall, understandable.
You exactly nailed my reason for wanting a date. A TS woman always dresses
and looks so beautiful. They are just amazing women. Also, the trials
they have gone through to become what they are today makes me confident
that if we do end up together that they will be there for me as much as
I will for them. Trials and hardship only make a person stronger.
Let me close by
asking this: As a man and never have experienced giving anal sex, what
should I expect? Also, would it be wrong to find a escort to try it first?
Do not get me wrong, if I found a person, I fell in love with, I would
not care about anything but the person, but I also just have that as a
BEAUTIFUL TGIRL DATE
Date: 10/14/2005 5:46:03 AM Pacific Standard Time
My first date
with a beautiful TS was this Tuesday, both of us are into bondage so it
might be a slow process to discover what we both enjoy. I was sent your
article, thank you as you have answered many questions I had about this
TO MEET A TGIRL
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 10/11/2005 3:26:48 AM Pacific Standard Time
Could you give me advice on how I could meet a TS woman of any kind? I
am am willing to be understanding as to what a TS has to endure but more
importantly to me is the values, character and personality of the person.
This not a new interest with me but one of a long time standing. I want
to find a person who is willing to love me as I will her, with respect,
understanding, caring and commitment. I am a somewhat shy person and my
family is rather traditional and I don't seek to flaunt any difference
in them but still value myself and my potential partner in life on the
even know where to start. But I was thinking that the Internet would be
a good place. I felt uneasy in the TS chatroom you have and found it impossible
for me to break into the areas of discussion I wanted and needed to talk
about and learn about.
Can you help me?
IS IN THE HUNT FOR A TGIRL
Subject: Seeking relationship in the Gulf South
Date: 10/8/2005 7:46:02 PM Pacific Standard Time
Bruce and I live in Baton Rouge. I'm 54 (and I apologize for sounding
vain when I tell you I look 10 years younger than that), 5' 7", 160
lbs., brown hair with a smattering of gray, and hazel eyes. I'm
single (three years divorced), no kids. I've been a technical writer for
most of my professional life in a variety of industries -- aerospace,
defense, petrochemical, information technology -- but currently coordinate
and co-author proposals for my current employer.
I own a Harley and
spend much of my free time on it. In fact, I recently took a week off
to ride up to Chattanooga to meet with a couple of friends from Columbus,
Ohio, but then had to ride all the way across Tennessee and Arkansas to
Texas before heading south and east again, all thanks to a storm named
Katrina. I also enjoy hunting, particularly with traditional and primitive
archery tackle, but haven't had the opportunity to do so in awhile. Reading,
movies, dinner out or in -- I like the usual stuff and am not hard to
please. Since I'm a child of the 60s and 70s, my musical preferences are
classic rock, blues, and country (not in any particular order). I detest
rap and hip-hop.
I've been with TS
before, though not in a relationship per se. And at the risk of sounding
like a hedonistic Lothario, a TS's femininity is perhaps the strongest
attraction. I'm honest and tend not to mince words, which occasionally
pisses some folks off, but I don't play games. I was raised by my late
father to treat all women with respect; it's a trait I'm proud of and
will adhere to until I die. I'm looking for more than just a sexual relationship.
I'd like to be able to connect on personal, mental, spritual and emotional
levels as well. If you'd like to know more, please drop me a line. I can
also send you a recent
picture if you'd like.
TGIRL SEEKS HUSBAND
Subject: Seeking a Serious Relationship
Date: 10/6/2005 6:35:18 PM Pacific Standard Time
I read your info on a possible way to meet men, via your site. So I am
requesting you post my email address in hopes I can meet a normal, decent
I am currently on hormone therapy, and am having very slow developement
due to my age. I am 49, and my chances are pretty small to find a future
husband, I know, but I have to try.
I am not passable, on HRT, and am very serious about my transition. I
live in Los Angeles and currently have no pic that I am happy with, as
I need a SERIOUS makeover.
Thanks for reading this.
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