TGirls Letters - TGirl feedback to us

TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

October, 2006

Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.

THE TGIRL & HIS CAREER
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 10/28/2006 6:55:26 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi Michael,

I have really enjoyed learning about the TS world through reading your site. I am very interested and am looking for a committed, long-term relationship with a TS. I have had a couple before, but they did not work. I have met someone that I connect with more than anyone I have ever met before, and I know that we would be wonderful together, and she thinks the same of me. I have no problems with what my family or friends think of this. I do, however, work in construction and have some personal friendships with peers from work. The construction industry is VERY full of prejudice and homophobic people. I see them read an article in the paper about anything gay and they get angry and almost hostile at the thought. Do you have any advice or tips on how to deal with this attitude? I want so much to not care about what other people think, but they could potentially ruin my career.

--Mike.

TGIRL AGREES WITH SPRINGER SLAP
Subject: Way to go about jerry Springer...
Date: 10/28/2006 12:26:03 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I'm glad someone stands up for the things they believe in, such as you. I know this was a while back, but I just found your site and read this story about them asking for a show. Right on! Jerry exploits people and I'm glad that you stuck up for everyone. I'm a CDer,and love to go out in fem. Thank you for the courageous stance and keep it up.

--Elizabeth.

LESBIAN TGIRLS ETC.
Subject: TS & Women
Date: 10/25/2006 5:16:29 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

It was with great interest that I read your article "What a TS Woman Wants," however, it did leave me with questions. Hopefully, you will forgive any ignorance that may be displayed and still indulge me in explaining.

My questions center around women and transgendered women. Based on your article, would you class a transgendered woman who enjoys the sexual company of men and women as a bisexual in a transgendered body? In your experience, does this ever occur? Also, based on your article, would you call a woman who is into transgendered women as a lesbian? I guess I am hoping for some more detailed analysis of the aspects of transgendered inclinations and how they relate to the "norms."

Can you help me understand?

--Barry.

HIS FIRST TGIRL WAS BACK IN HIGH SCHOOL
Subject: young guy looking for relationship with ts woman
Date: 10/22/2006 6:28:49 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

My name is Tony and I'm 19 and in the Army. I would love to meet a TS woman because I am looking for something different. I don't think that I'm gay, mainly because I'm not attracted to other men. I've been interested in TS women since I was about 16 when I met a lovely young woman named Vanessa. She was also 16, but had realized at a young age that she was a girl trapped in a boy's body, as she explained it to me. I got to know her because I was curious, and before I knew it, we were dating. We dated through high school up until a few months after we graduated, mainly because I never told my family or friends.

Well, since then, I've tried to get over her by dating "real women," but I've found that most of them aren't as feminine as TS women. I would like to find a woman, TS or GG, who will allow me to be the man in a relationship.

--Tonio.

LOOKING FOR A TGIRL IN NYC
Subject: Enjoyed your article
Date: 10/22/2006 1:04:26 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Would love to find a special woman as you write about. Was involved for many years in a great relationship and would love another one. Can you recommend any organizations in NYC where I can find that special woman?

Thanks so much,

--Paul.

WHY A TGIRL OVER A GG?
Subject: your articles
Date: 10/21/2006 9:16:30 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Thanks. Informative and devoid of BS. I needed that information. One issue you haven't covered, at least not that I have seen, is: Why would a straight man seek out a TS over a GG?

--LeMoigne.

THE BI GUY AND TGIRLS
Subject: Advice
Date: 10/17/2006 4:14:40 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello,

I'll start by saying that I am 30-year-old black man who is bisexual. Before I start, I'd like to ask, can you explain the difference between someone who is TS and transgendered? I have heard different interpretations of it and I'd like your interpretation.

I want to say that I read your section on bisexual men and TS's and I agree with it for the most part. I have been involved with a MTF TS and very effiminate gay men for quite some time. I have come to the conclusion that, in the grand scheme of things, these are the two groups that most closely fit my sexuality, for lack of a better way to put it. What I wanted to focus on was this, it has taken many years for me to learn the hard way about what you talked about on your website.

There is also a side that needs to be brought to the forefront as well, and that is the dynamic of the bisexual man that is drawn to femininity. The reason that I mention this is because there are some guys out there with differing degrees of their sexuality and I see how confusing this can be, especially for a TS.

I have found that honesty is the best policy. There was a time when I was one of the thrill seekers that you mentioned, but this was because I had a false sense of reality. I have come to learn that femininity is what drives me the most and that is why I feel that, for someone like me, a TS woman or a very effeminate gay man would suit me best because they understand the dynamic of the alpha male.

I have always been the man/initiator/protector through the relationship in its entirety.

TGIRLS ARE JUST LIKE GG'S
Subject: Hi All
Date: 10/15/2006 2:18:32 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hi,

I appreciate your efforts and offer my best wishes. I am a heterosexual male from Asia. Your site clearly explained to me that, irrespective of the nature, TS females are just like normal girls. Even though I have not met any TS females, I believe they make good girlfriends; good partners and they are smarter. So try to make your life more successful and definitely, you will find a partner just made for you.

--Praveen.

NO WARM WELCOME ON FOURTH VISIT
Subject: chat admins
Date: 10/13/2006 2:21:48 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello,

We did see each other in the chatroom before. I did like it very much, nice people, warm and friendly. I've been in the chatroom three times now, great each time.

But the fourth time, the admins [Room Monitors] didn't even bother to say hello to anyone except their friends. Most were too busy with PMs and the rest were only into their own worlds. Just when I thought I had found a nice place where people are friendly, they start to act like any other chat that I have seen, where you can come and go without any hi or bye.

If it weren't for Knight, I would have thought my firewall was blocking something.

Thank you for the few cool times in your chatroom. Maybe I will try again sometime.

--Dan.

TGIRLS SEEK TO REPRINT ARTICLE
Subject: Post article in blog?
Date: 10/12/2006 10:23:29 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

Hello,

We love your site! Would it be possible to post the article here http://www.tsgirlfriend.com/pre-op-ts-boyfriend-hunt-article.html to our blog with, of course, a link back to your site? Let us know.

Thanks!

--Tabatha & Judy.

FIRST DATE WITH A TGIRL
Subject: thank you for your article!
Date: 10/11/2006 6:00:43 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: TSgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I am about to have my first date with a TS tonight, and you have helped me in that I am less likely to make any of the fatal errors you have mentioned. I really like this girl and don't want to blow my opportunity with her. As you know, first impressions mean everything. Thank you.

--Paul.

WHAT TGIRLS REALLY ARE
Subject: Difficult...
Date: 10/6/2006 3:43:15 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: Tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I hope this finds you well. First of all, I'd like to thank you for clearing the air in terms of what a transsexual woman really is and what is expected from the visitors of your site. I have to confess that I had some of the misconseptions you mentioned and also I am curious. I think there is nothing wrong with that as long as you behave and respect the ladies in the room.

Even after reading all the rules (uff!), I still want to give it a try. I will use my best judgment and hopefully will not offend anybody, for that is not my purpose. Again, my congrats and best wishes.

--Eduardo.

RELAX & ENJOY THE SENSATIONS & AFFECTION
Subject: Dating
Date: 10/3/2006 10:27:51 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@aol.com

I mostly agree with opinions expressed on this site. Moreover, it is very constructive and helpful; thank you for providing important information to us girls.

I think potential dates are like a rainbow, so many varieties. Yet there is a common theme to most; they either want to suck a cock, or they just want sex with someone who wears a skirt. Another less-common variety is lonely men who want a partner, almost any partner who is somewhat feminine. Within the above, there are many shades of color and intentions.

For years, I thought that guys that wanted to suck me were undesirable. Even though I am TG, not a pre-op or post-op, I wanted to always be the lady. I was shortsighted, not realizing that I passed up on some great guys who sincerely wanted my affection, and were willing to give their affection. So what? What is so terrible about a man licking and sucking a T-girl? Relax and enjoy the experience. Most guys like to put their heads between their lovers’ legs; I promise I’m right about this.

I understand that this is a dilemma for those girls determined to undergo SRS. Obviously, your boyfriend will not be thrilled if he already likes what is between your legs. I’m not recommending anything for you, although there is hope. There is a guy for you somewhere; I’m sure of it. For the rest of us, or in the meantime, relax and understand that it is OK. Guys love to suck pussy and sometimes feminine cock, too. It’s their nature, no big deal. They can fall in love, express genuine affection, be honestly caring and romantic, and more. I don’t want to be a lab rat for experiments by men, but I believe we should be open to relationships that don’t fulfill our every fantasy. Men are complex; so are we. Let’s not be one dimensional.

With kind regards,

--Sherry.

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